Wife lied about birth control, pregnant, advice? (lover, cheated, separate)
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ALL of them?? People are really going overboard, here...
Why?
A liar is a liar. If she can lie about one thing it is reasonable to be able to lie about all things.
This is the problem though. If the OP goes down this road then the relationship is dead.
He has to decide to forgive and trust her or walk.
No trust = No relationship.
Its his choice clearly, but if it were me with 2 other kids and history I would forgive her and move on.
People walk from relationships way to much. Anything about her that is negative that he knew about he can deal with since he chose to deal with or ignore it already.
The mother of my children would have to do some nefarious **** to me before considering walking away. Lying to have another kid, while inconvenient, foolish and short sighted doesn't qualify as nefarious.
Why?A liar is a liar. If she can lie about one thing it is reasonable to be able to lie about all things.
This is unnecessary. He knows the first two kids were planned. He can count 9 months on the calendar from conception, or from when they were "trying" for a pregnancy. And again, the current pregnancy wouldn't have been deliberately planned by the wife if she'd been having an affair. She would have stayed on her bc to hide the affair.
Difficulties are handled so much better with reason, than by letting emotions run amok and cause irrational suspicions. I think these suggestions are being made more out of anger and a desire for revenge than out of any commonsense analysis of the situation.
ALL of them?? People are really going overboard, here...
I know women always think they're entitled to get away with everything but he should get a paternity test on all children. I wouldn't be surprised none of them are his. Then divorce.
I know women always think they're entitled to get away with everything but he should get a paternity test on all children. I wouldn't be surprised none of them are his. Then divorce.
Why divorce when you can stone her to death? It's a lot cheaper than divorce.
My take on this is...Wife lied when she said she didn't want another baby, or else she would have taken the birth control. She knew you didn't want one, and so she still managed to get her way.
You are still committed to the family despite her shortcomings. This is good for the kids.
I think you should keep on striving for your goals, but keep in mind that as the years go on, your wife will probably continue to fall short of your expectations in new and different ways, until you wish you'd cut her lose earlier. Just be ready for it. Of course, get snipped, too.
Deception on this scale crosses into divorce territory, imo. I'm not saying it would be automatic, but unless everything else in the marriage was amazing, it would be over.
The vasectomy happened at the end of the week already, people. We're waiting for the post-mortem. So to speak.
Was it this week? I thought he just said his appointment was scheduled. If it was at the end of this week, he's probably home with some painkillers and some ice.
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