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This. It's possible if I would have had a really horrible girlfriend as a teenager when I was living at home (I didn't), she might have told me to dump her, and I would have had no choice since I wasn't an adult. Now, as an adult, with a mother who is a senior citizen living hundreds of miles away from me, it's nearly impossible to imagine a situation where she would tell me to dump a girlfriend. That's not something we do in my family, really. We respect each other's decisions.
Tell you what. I doubt they would have any concerns, since we are pretty much on the same page about things. Anybody odious to them would probably be odious to me. That said, even at my age if they had concerns I would listen.
Tell you what. I doubt they would have any concerns, since we are pretty much on the same page about things. Anybody odious to them would probably be odious to me. That said, even at my age if they had concerns I would listen.
Okay,I will give you a specific scenario.
Let's say your girlfriend got an abortion when she was younger. She told YOU that, and you are okay with it.
For some odd reason, your mother found it out from other people and take it as a reason that she (the girlfriend) is dishonest. and your mother asked you to dump her for good.
Obviously, you and your mother would have different views on your girlfriend. Would you dump your girlfriend just because your mom tells you so?
Is this about your & your boyfriend whose mother doesn't like you because of the perfume incident?
You guys have a boatload of drama. Maybe you should end it, honestly, with all these threads you're creating, it seems like this relationship is weighing on your mind and wearing you down.
Is this about your & your boyfriend whose mother doesn't like you because of the perfume incident?
You guys have a boatload of drama. Maybe you should end it, honestly, with all these threads you're creating, it seems like this relationship is weighing on your mind and wearing you down.
No. It is not about me and the dude I just broke up with him. And the scenario(abortion) is just a made up scenario. However, you are right about the perfume incidence, I just couldn't get over the fact that I got into such a weird situation. Even though I haven't talked to him for about 3 days, I couldn't seem to get over it. This has to be the most weird relationship I have ever got into. NO matter how I analyze this, I just couldn't find any reasons why we got into this messy situation.
Let's say your girlfriend got an abortion when she was younger. She told YOU that, and you are okay with it.
For some odd reason, your mother found it out from other people and take it as a reason that she (the girlfriend) is dishonest. and your mother asked you to dump her for good.
Obviously, you and your mother would have different views on your girlfriend. Would you dump your girlfriend just because your mom tells you so?
The abortion thing would be a deal breaker for me. I don't care if YOU get an abortion, but I wouldn't do it myself and I do care when it comes to the people in my inner circle. My mother would also care. Like I said, we would be on the same page about this one.
So lets use another example ... drugs or alcohol.
-Druggie? I would probably listen to mom ... eventually.
-Someone who's "been around"? Ditto.
-Recovering alcoholic? Depends on how strong her other qualities were. I actually did have a date with a recovering alcoholic who had effed up her liver. It didn't get to a second date, but I still toyed with the idea of whether I should move forward with this or not.
I grew up in an environment that is big on extended family. Therefore, I don't think of things just from the standpoint of just me and my mate. Of course, that relationship is going to take priority over the other relationships, BUT maintaining interaction with family is very important to me for anything long term so it is very important that any potential mate can be at least cordial to mom and dad.
I think life as just a couple is kind of boring without family around to mix things up.
I don't want to sound like I'm in high school. What mom and dad thought wouldn't be THE determining factor, but that's the way things would work out because we see things mostly the same way.
No. It is not about me and the dude I just broke up with him. And the scenario(abortion) is just a made up scenario. However, you are right about the perfume incidence, I just couldn't get over the fact that I got into such a weird situation. Even though I haven't talked to him for about 3 days, I couldn't seem to get over it. This has to be the most weird relationship I have ever got into. NO matter how I analyze this, I just couldn't find any reasons why we got into this messy situation.
Link so I know what you're talking about?
Drama and the reasons for it is worthy of an entire different thread. What I learned recently is that sometimes people with ADD thrive on drama and pushing buttons. It's their way of self medicating.
I grew up in an environment that is big on extended family. Therefore, I don't think of things just from the standpoint of just me and my mate. Of course, that relationship is going to take priority over the other relationships, BUT maintaining interaction with family is very important to me for anything long term so it is very important that any potential mate can be at least cordial to mom and dad.
I think life as just a couple is kind of boring without family around to mix things up.
I don't want to sound like I'm in high school. What mom and dad thought wouldn't be THE determining factor, but that's the way things would work out because we see things mostly the same way.
abortion /drug/recovering alchoholic might be too much of extreme examples. Let's simply try this.
Let's say your girlfriend tells your a secret and you are okay with it, however, your mother is not okay with it and push you to dump her.
Will you listen to mommy dearest or you will just continuously dating your girlfriend?
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