guys, will you dump your girlfriend because your mother tells you so?

[Betsy84]

And really, your exbf allowed this dynamic to continue as a 38 year old man, so he is as much of a problem as she is.

[Djuna]

Now it's her ex boyfriend so hopefully all the childish middle school threads will stop

[akck]

Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981

anyway, this mother loved me, but as soon as I contradicted her, she went crazy. I think she has strong control issue, and a sick son and a minor granddaughter make her very paranoid. (understandable reasoning but poor excuse in my opinion)

This was the problem. As soon as she realized you were willing to contradict her and thereby not let her rule the roost, she turned on you. She didn't want to lose control of her son and you'd be the one standing in her way. Even if your relationship continued onto marriage, she'd likely work at ending it unless you became a complacent DIL.

[TabulaRasa]

I've never actually been with a guy who had a mom-apron strings issue. I was with a guy who was overly ruled by his father's influence, and his father didn't particularly care for me, nor I him, and that was ultimately an issue. But never had the mom problem.
But regardless of what parent wields too much control, if you're in your midthirties and letting your folks call the shots on your decisions, still, you've got problems.