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I dont want to get off topic here but in NYC what you just stated is true. Plenty of men inflate womens egos here to the point she thinks she is miss it. Plenty of guys tell these women who are below a 5 that they are hot, sexy, damb ma, god bless you, can I go down on you. These type of women here are open to these type of topics. Sad thing is these women over time see themselves as hot stuff and feel they need a physically attractive guy and avoid average joes. Believe me walk down the streets of NY tou will see plenty of unattractive women with attractive men, sad thing is many attractive men have unattractive women on their strings just to sleep with. Unattractive women here egos are way to high for my taste here in NYC, thats why I joined CD ao that I can move to another city which has a better dating culture.
Men can't win either way. Either you have too high standards and are shooting above your level or you are going for the lower end and are a bad person for that.
the real key here is in the mirror
taking a hard look in that mirror and seeing the 4 or 5 that is there and not the 10 that u lie to yourself about and then go out trying to find another 10.
the affirmation game madness needs to stop. self examination and realistic truthful expectations about who is your equal match would improve our matchmaking greatly.
the something for nothing game has to come to an end b4 happiness can come in the door.
the secret to happiness, lower expectations.
That is the conventional wisdom but I mostly disagree. Everyone has different tastes in what they find attractive. Plus attraction involves chemistry that isn't always purely physical.
Where I most strongly disagree with you is the idea that lowered expectations is the secret to happiness. In my experience many of my happiest moments in life were when I exceeded expectations (this isn't exclusive to dating). Personally lowering expectations would make me feel more sadness than I have ever known. I would truly rather be single than be in a relationship with a woman I wasn't into at all.
That is the conventional wisdom but I mostly disagree. Everyone has different tastes in what they find attractive. Plus attraction involves chemistry that isn't always purely physical.
Where I most strongly disagree with you is the idea that lowered expectations is the secret to happiness. In my experience many of my happiest moments in life were when I exceeded expectations (this isn't exclusive to dating). Personally lowering expectations would make me feel more sadness than I have ever known. I would truly rather be single than be in a relationship with a woman I wasn't into at all.
If you don't feel the attraction towards her then your little friend isn't going to grow up no matter whether she's a 1 or a 10.
Difference is that we guys let ourselves feel attraction towards the ones but even the minus one women in NY don't admit any attraction to men who are 1-3 although in their hearts, they know real well that they are attracted to plain looking men too.
Not really, the opposite is true. If I hit on Kate Upton, I'd almost expect to get rejected. If I hit on a woman who was a 5 and she turned me down, I'd think something was seriously wrong with me
That's pretty much what I was going to say. The winners know it's go big or go home. If they go home, they do resting assured they were trying to go big - not wasting time on anybody they didn't find spectacular.
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