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And yet you didn't address my point. You are thinking like a man...all your experiences that you have stated are about MEN being caught cheating on their girlfriends.
I'm telling you that with women, silence speaks louder than any words he could ever say to her or pissy fit he could have. If he has a fit, she has power over him and his emotions. If he casually walks away it will eat her up.
Doubtful if she's getting her rocks off with some other guy. Heck, she may even feel good about getting caught so she can hook up with the friend with no more guilt or shame (if she even has any of those feelings to begin with).
He's a guy she used to work with and has since kept in touch with. The photos were of his privates.
I was half-tempted to take replace the pics of his with some of mine and leave it at that...
You know what? If you do that, don't make it of your privates. Make it of you smiling, holding a sign on which you've written, "Bet you didn't think I'd find out."
Just do that on the day you leave. Let her find them later.
Okay, then as a man, I'll second that advice. There is NO POINT WHATSOEVER in making a scene. Just move on. And I know of a few women who would cooly walk away. You're trying to put people into a box, but the "one size fits all" approach simply does not work with human behavior.
While I use to believe this approach, I've discovered that when a man "cooly" handles this situation, it's usually a reflection of his manlihood in handling it, likely he just accepted the fact that his gf completely disrespected him, or he wasn't invested enough emotionally.
I wouldn't make a "scene" like a woman (come on "hell hath no fury, like a woman scorn", you know what I'm talking about), but as I was leaving I would definitely use some very choice words that women hate being called. There is no more appropriate moment to make her feel like the dirt hole she crawled out of then when she has just wholesale disrespected you by letting other guys bang her behind your back.
Respect yourself bro, like starting now, because you will be licking your wounds and trying to get your self esteem back after something like this. Trust me on this one.
Doubtful if she's getting her rocks off with some other guy. Heck, she may even feel good about getting caught so she can hook up with the friend with no more guilt or shame (if she even has any of those feelings to begin with).
Yes, but she won't ever truly know she's been caught. She has no idea he went through her computer or phone...
She will always wonder and question that, and she's not likely to ask him if that was the reason why.
I wouldn't make a "scene" like a woman (come on "hell hath no fury, like a woman scorn", you know what I'm talking about), but as I was leaving I would definitely use some very choice words that women hate being called. There is no more appropriate moment to make her feel like the dirt hole she crawled out of then when she has just wholesale disrespected you by letting other guys bang her behind your back.
That's assuming she has a conscience. If she's got even the merest hint of sociopathy, she's going to say, "See? Talking to me like that is the reason I went looking elsewhere." And she'll believe it. Cheaters excel at rationalizing and lying to themselves.
I wouldn't make a "scene" like a woman (come on "hell hath no fury, like a woman scorn", you know what I'm talking about), but as I was leaving I would definitely use some very choice words that women hate being called. There is no more appropriate moment to make her feel like the dirt hole she crawled out of then when she has just wholesale disrespected you by letting other guys bang her behind your back.
But by doing that you have just handed over the power to her and you HAVE made yourself look weak.
There is no convincing you otherwise, but if I was in this situation I would NOT let that person know they hurt me in any way, shape or form. Let them sit and wonder if I ever really gave a **** for them if I could so easily walk away.
While I use to believe this approach, I've discovered that when a man "cooly" handles this situation, it's usually a reflection of his manlihood in handling it, likely he just accepted the fact that his gf completely disrespected him, or he wasn't invested enough emotionally.
I wouldn't make a "scene" like a woman (come on "hell hath no fury, like a woman scorn", you know what I'm talking about), but as I was leaving I would definitely use some very choice words that women hate being called. There is no more appropriate moment to make her feel like the dirt hole she crawled out of then when she has just wholesale disrespected you by letting other guys bang her behind your back.
Respect yourself bro, like starting now, because you will be licking your wounds and trying to get your self esteem back after something like this. Trust me on this one.
I have enough self respect to know when to cut my losses and move on. Sure I would WANT to leave behind a piece of my mind. But what difference would that make? We are talking about someone who has already shown you the ultimate sign of disrespect. Do you actually think that telling her ANYTHING is going to make a difference?
A better reflection of manliness is how well you maintain control through a painful and emotionally challenging situation. Boys get emotional, men get on with their lives.
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