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Thanks for all of the great feedback. It's going to be a major issue for her when this goes down as she's going to go from living in my house to living out of her car. Oh well...
The last thing I'm going to do is give her fuel to stoke any rebuttals she may have. All that is going to be said is "I found this, my fears were justified, adios."
Off to Home Depot to pick up some locks. When shes asks for a key to the new locksets she's going to be surprised by the answer.
You guys, really? What you just said is totally agreeable conduct in any other situation, but if you found out your husband was having an affair by finding pictures of it and you knew the relationship was completely over, would you still go for the silent treatment? come on, please.
Seriously, hell yes I would. ABSOLUTELY.
What good would yelling or calling him names do? I'd pack my stuff up along with the kids and walk right out the door and then only deal with him through a lawyer. No need to make myself look like a pathetic, whiny ass crying over his poor choices.
Again, I ask that, if she has already slumped low enough to reach a point of infidelity, what on earth makes you think that calling her a lowlife scumbag is going to have any discernible effect? Let me guess, if you could travel back in time and meet Adolf Hitler, you would have called him a jerk, right? On a smaller (and more realistic) scale, this is exactly what you are doing.
You guys, really? What you just said is totally agreeable conduct in any other situation, but if you found out your husband was having an affair by finding pictures of it and you knew the relationship was completely over, would you still go for the silent treatment? come on, please.
I know I would because I have done it before. At that point, when you know the relationship is over, it's not even worth the argument. There is nothing left to discuss. Like it's already been said she will just use that as justification that her cheating was the right thing to do.
Thanks for all of the great feedback. It's going to be a major issue for her when this goes down as she's going to go from living in my house to living out of her car. Oh well...
The last thing I'm going to do is give her fuel to stoke any rebuttals she may have. All that is going to be said is "I found this, my fears were justified, adios."
Off to Home Depot to pick up some locks. When shes asks for a key to the new locksets she's going to be surprised by the answer.
Well, this complicates the "walk away without so much as a glance over your shoulder" approach. If it's her who is going to be moving, though, I would have her stuff packed and ready for removal. Perhaps even open a storage unit and have it out of your house so she doesn't have a chance to even get in. And good call on the locks.
It's an extreme example, as implied and noted in the VERY NEXT SENTENCE. The idea is very similar to what you do when you do what you do. She doesn't care. If she doesn't care enough about you to avoid infidelity, she doesn't care when you call her dirty names for it.
You guys, really? What you just said is totally agreeable conduct in any other situation, but if you found out your husband was having an affair by finding pictures of it and you knew the relationship was completely over, would you still go for the silent treatment? come on, please.
At this point in my life, I have the wisdom to be patient. Evilly, wickedly patient.
It's an extreme example, as implied and noted in the VERY NEXT SENTENCE. The idea is very similar to what you do when you do what you do. She doesn't care. If she doesn't care enough about you to avoid infidelity, she doesn't care when you call her dirty names for it.
Well, apparently she stills cares enough about the relationship to not directly end it herself. Cheaters rationalize everything, she probably thinks its her right to cheat or doesn't view it as cheating since it's "just" pictures.
I know I would because I have done it before. At that point, when you know the relationship is over, it's not even worth the argument. There is nothing left to discuss. Like it's already been said she will just use that as justification that her cheating was the right thing to do.
Exactly. Because now YOU become the dumbass and she can blame you for it all (not you personally).
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Originally Posted by prophead
Thanks for all of the great feedback. It's going to be a major issue for her when this goes down as she's going to go from living in my house to living out of her car. Oh well...
The last thing I'm going to do is give her fuel to stoke any rebuttals she may have. All that is going to be said is "I found this, my fears were justified, adios."
Off to Home Depot to pick up some locks. When shes asks for a key to the new locksets she's going to be surprised by the answer.
Hmmm, be careful with this. I'm not sure what the legalities are but you may want to look into this. IF she was paying anything towards living there (utilities, rent to you, food for both of you..etc) she may be considered a "legal tenant" under the law...in which case you may not have legal ground to kick her out with no warning and change the locks.
You may want to get some legal advice on this issue.
Thanks for all of the great feedback. It's going to be a major issue for her when this goes down as she's going to go from living in my house to living out of her car. Oh well...
The last thing I'm going to do is give her fuel to stoke any rebuttals she may have. All that is going to be said is "I found this, my fears were justified, adios."
Off to Home Depot to pick up some locks. When shes asks for a key to the new locksets she's going to be surprised by the answer.
You'd better check the eviction laws in your state, first. In mine, that's not legal. If the person has an established residence there and can prove it--mail, personal belongings there, etc.--you can't just change the locks and render the person homeless. You have to formally evict the person. I've been through it with a property I owned.
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Exactly. Because now YOU become the dumbass and she can blame you for it all (not you personally).
