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She'd know. She'd be a dumbass/delusional not to. People don't leave LTR's with no explanation unless something like this is going on.
No, she wouldn't. She might wonder, she might assume but without confirmation from him she'd never really know if that was the reason. She'd question if he really loved her, if he found someone better, younger, prettier because surely she hid those pictures well enough. Surely he'd never look at her computer without her knowledge..etc.
I'm telling you that with women, silence speaks louder than any words he could ever say to her or pissy fit he could have. If he has a fit, she has power over him and his emotions. If he casually walks away it will eat her up.
I imagine all the women you have cussed out were probably laughing their asses off afterwards, you just spoon fed them a reason they were better off without you. That's how I'd see it anyway.
Actually...it's entirely true. One of the most sure-fire ways I know that my wife is upset with me is when she won't say a word. That applies for every girlfriend I had before her, too.
I have enough self respect to know when to cut my losses and move on. Sure I would WANT to leave behind a piece of my mind. But what difference would that make? We are talking about someone who has already shown you the ultimate sign of disrespect. Do you actually think that telling her ANYTHING is going to make a difference?
A better reflection of manliness is how well you maintain control through a painful and emotionally challenging situation. Boys get emotional, men get on with their lives.
I didn't suggest going psycho on her, but making her feel like a low life scumbag is not unreasonable under the circumstances. And, yes, telling her that in the most crude manner is exactly what she needs to hear, and believe me will make a difference, even though many women on this forum will argue otherwise. No doubt it will be hurtful to her, but not as hurtful as OP feels.
You know what? If you do that, don't make it of your privates. Make it of you smiling, holding a sign on which you've written, "Bet you didn't think I'd find out."
Just do that on the day you leave. Let her find them later.
Actually...it's entirely true. One of the most sure-fire ways I know that my wife is upset with me is when she won't say a word. That applies for every girlfriend I had before her, too.
When I'm REALLY mad...that's exactly how my huband knows too. I usually leave the house because I don't even want to be around him.
Now, when we disagree/fight I'd rather he bicker back and forth with me. If he goes silent on me or walks away it drives me up the wall. He knows how to push my buttons.
I didn't suggest going psycho on her, but making her feel like a low life scumbag is not unreasonable under the circumstances. And, yes, telling her that in the most crude manner is exactly what she needs to hear, and believe me will make a difference, even though many women on this forum will argue otherwise. No doubt it will be hurtful to her, but not as hurtful as OP feels.
Again, I ask that, if she has already slumped low enough to reach a point of infidelity, what on earth makes you think that calling her a lowlife scumbag is going to have any discernible effect? Let me guess, if you could travel back in time and meet Adolf Hitler, you would have called him a jerk, right? On a smaller (and more realistic) scale, this is exactly what you are doing.
When I'm REALLY mad...that's exactly how my huband knows too. I usually leave the house because I don't even want to be around him.
Now, when we disagree/fight I'd rather he bicker back and forth with me. If he goes silent on me or walks away it drives me up the wall. He knows how to push my buttons.
You guys, really? What you just said is totally agreeable conduct in any other situation, but if you found out your husband was having an affair by finding pictures of it and you knew the relationship was completely over, would you still go for the silent treatment? come on, please.
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