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I don't necessarily feel that it's all over if a certain person doesn't marry me, but I do sometimes worry that I will never get married. It'd hard sometimes when you are getting older and still want kids.
Yeah, good instinct. Don't mention it to him. worried about marriage? You think no one will if he doesn't? Highly unlikely. You will have many opportunities as I am confident I will at probably twice your age. Relax.
Yeah I was tempted to mention my fears about marriage but realized that would be scary perhaps to him.
From drinks at the American Legion with him and his mother to marriage...does she know that you planning to take her little 50 yo baby from her? Will never happen, you are living in a fantasy world.
You know who are living in a fantasy world? the scummy men with kids and an ex who think I should lower my standards to date them.
Go easy on her, folks. She's never been married before (unlike many of us) and has no kids. And she's not one of those women who is against marriage. She wants what she wants. I can see how as time goes on and you're not getting what you want, one might feel more and more hopeless.
IDDY, all you can do is keep an open-mind and be happy with what life has in store for you now.
Thanks, I try to keep an open mind and I do think things will work out with him. It's just scary because I am fearful at times.
IDDY, I really admire your honesty. However, I really think you need a reality check. You always believe men reject you due to your age, I highly doubt this is the case.
I've done a search on match.com
This is a typical 47 year old man's profile looks like
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Active within 24 hours
47 year old man
XXXX, California, United States
Seeking: women 36-47 Within:100 Miles of XXXXX, California, United States
********** Obviously, this man is not even going to consider ME because I am simply too young for him. He is looking for women your age. Don't get discouraged! ********
Decent men who have reasonable expectations are out there. But seriously, women your age have to open to at least divorced men. Don't you think?
I am in my late 20s right now, I've found a lot of divorced men to be very desirable. I am raised Christian, but I will definitely date people outside my religious belief. I am not that religious anyway.
I don't think you should "lower" your standard. Nobody should settle for losers, cheaters, men who are allergic to work, but seriously, girlfriend, you cannot choose your future date based on their past or religious belief.
This taco man does not sound like a great catch. I haven't read all your post, but if he is 50 and is still living with his mother, he's not a great catch at all. (I thought he owns his own taco bell or something. =)
Divorced men are out unless they are annulled. I am very devout and will not marry a man unable to marry in church. So yes I generally seek never married men. Many men do reject me based on age because they want kids and of course there is no guarantee I can have kids but never is there a guarantee. So often the only men who contact me are divorced dads, never married dad (yuck) and guys who don't want kids. None of them will work as I want kids, biological or adopted.
My standards are far from ridiculous. I am a moral person and not interested in dating a man without morals. So now I won't lower them.
I don't blame you. Why should you lower your morals and end up being trash like a lot of people nowadays. I am in the same boat as you, so I understand.
I don't blame you. Why should you lower your morals and end up being trash like a lot of people nowadays.
If it was up to those people they judge someone like me more harshly than someone with a bunch of baby mamas or exwives.
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