Need a debate settled (yet again) (divorced, personal, relations, people)
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I just realized something. I did propose to him already. One night before going to sleep I said "marry me" and he said "yes, I'll marry you". Then this week I said "OK what if we got married on so and so date, does that work for you?" And he said "yes, that's a good idea."
So I guess under normal rules, we are engaged minus a ring.
Yayyyyyy
Congratulations to you both. We know who he is ya know
No proposal and no ring? How is that an engagement?
Many women have been 'engaged' sans ring, a date or a proposal, they're not married now either.
A man can tell you a date to shut you up and never deliver anything else. The date comes and goes with another year and another date set. (Note: I'm not saying your fiancee is doing that, just sayin).
So, who's the guy--I thought I caught something about C-D being responsible for this? And when is the date? Huh, HUH? You know, so we can have a party on the chat thread for you.
I thought people knew by now who it was.
Because he is such a horror movie fan, and neither of us is superstitious, let's just say we picked an appropriate date for next year.
I thought people knew by now who it was.
Because he is such a horror movie fan, and neither of us is superstitious, let's just say we picked an appropriate date for next year.
I just realized something. I did propose to him already. One night before going to sleep I said "marry me" and he said "yes, I'll marry you". Then this week I said "OK what if we got married on so and so date, does that work for you?" And he said "yes, that's a good idea."
So I guess under normal rules, we are engaged minus a ring.
Now to buy the ring!
Till the "I do's" anything could happen with or without a proposal and or a ring.
The engagement ring, the wedding ring, the suffering = what a three ring circus!
Yes tradition would say that you're not engaged, but it's your lives to do with what you please and who I am or anyone else to judge?
He hasn't asked you to marry him....then their is not a proposal, nor are you engaged. In the old days I had herd the term...Engaged to be engaged...sort of makes sense in your situation. I would just go with it.
(If your not engaged, then my late husband and I were never engaged, we went straight to married)
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How are you NOT engaged? Engagement (to me) doesn't require a ring. I know plenty of couples who were engaged and waited on the ring, and one who just went with bands at the wedding. Engaged = planning to marry. You set a date and are clearly not joking around. Congratulations to you!
And it only matters what you think, by the way, but to me, if I set a date that means I'm engaged.
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what a three ring circus! 
