What can I do to stop gay men from hitting me on all the time? (people, best)
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Something about you must be attracting, You're probably very metro-sexual. Metro-sexual men can easily be misunderstood as being gay. There has been times I thought a man was gay because of his confidence and style and boy was I so wrong. I can see how this can get frustrating, but just think of it as a compliment, if they look your way and give you that "I'm interested stare", just look away with that "I'm not interested look".
Hi there, I'm a 26 year old Latino guy from New York City and I'm constantly getting hit on by gay men> This happens mostly on public transportation (subways and buses) and its getting annoying, not to mention I get offended by it because I'm totally straight and I have no interest in men at all. Any advice on what to do to prevent this? Or maybe its something on the way I dress that's giving off a false vibe to those people? I really don't know why this keeps happening to me but its getting annoying and one of these days I'm gonna end up cursing one of those guys out in front of everyone. That's how annoying this is starting to become.
Oh and please if ya gonna comment this, don't give me no stupid/dumb or irrelevant comments, if you're the one to comment BS I would prefer you keep your comments to yourself. Thanks
Hi there, I'm a 26 year old Latino guy from New York City and I'm constantly getting hit on by gay men> This happens mostly on public transportation (subways and buses) and its getting annoying, not to mention I get offended by it because I'm totally straight and I have no interest in men at all. Any advice on what to do to prevent this? Or maybe its something on the way I dress that's giving off a false vibe to those people? I really don't know why this keeps happening to me but its getting annoying and one of these days I'm gonna end up cursing one of those guys out in front of everyone. That's how annoying this is starting to become.
Oh and please if ya gonna comment this, don't give me no stupid/dumb or irrelevant comments, if you're the one to comment BS I would prefer you keep your comments to yourself. Thanks
First off, how do you know these guys are absolutely gay? perhaps, they're checking out your outdated attire, messy hair, the person next to you? perhaps, you're a bit homophobic?
my advise, is to act the way you act if it was the ugliest women you've ever seen trying to hit on you.
First off, how do you know these guys are absolutely gay? perhaps, they're checking out your outdated attire, messy hair, the person next to you? perhaps, you're a bit homophobic?
my advise, is to act the way you act if it was the ugliest women you've ever seen trying to hit on you.
This happens to me, too, and you know it for a fact when they tell you directly, tell a coworker or friend (who then tells you), or something more direct like touch you. I take it for what it is, and to be honest, it can be very flattering because lots of gay men dress better than straight girls.
This happens to me, too, and you know it for a fact when they tell you directly, tell a coworker or friend (who then tells you), or something more direct like touch you. I take it for what it is, and to be honest, it can be very flattering because lots of gay men dress better than straight girls.
I just visited the forum for the first time yesterday, so I have an excuse for a late reply.
Based on how this played out, I'm not sure the thread was meant as serious. However, it's interesting, and I can personally relate and also have some quasi-book knowledge to bring here.
I think any man who is reasonably attractive, young, well-groomed, well-dressed, and non-threatening-looking is likely to someday experience the unwanted attention in a place where gay male feel free to be themselves. It's disturbing in part because it can raise questions about perceptions. What if heterosexual men and women are also suspecting the guy of being gay?
Besides avoiding those situations - which doesn't differ much from telling an attractive woman not to go out alone at night - I think the thing is to look more macho. Right, smile less, maybe lift more weights, maybe scruffy facial hair (if open to that), avoid colorful clothing, scarves, clingy or shiny shirts, things like that (not necessarily "flaming" signs). Gay men might be just as physically attracted to macho men, but would be more afraid of hitting on them when sexuality is unknown. That change has worked for me.
Last edited by goodheathen; 06-27-2013 at 12:22 PM..
I bet that over half of the guys who buy that shirt are extremely closeted gay guys.
If the OP wears that shirt in the NYC subway system, he will likely get beat up. I can't imagine anyone ever wearing that shirt - though I guess I have seen stranger things...
Any straight guy who is approached by a gay guy and allows it is probably bi-curious
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