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Ideally, you need to be in my salary neighborhood. 20% +/- give or take. If I make 2X what you do, that is likely a bit unbalanced.
I could careless what she makes. The main thing that matters to me is that how she manages her finances and what she does with it for short and long term.
That was me. I don't think these "relationships" can be umbrellaed under income alone. Demographics likely comes into play here and that in itself plays into the success of a marriage. So, I imagine blue collar would see a greater affect than white collar, or affluent (not only wealth, but education and culture).
Yeah I think so as well or in any relationship where the gender roles are more traditional. I can't find anything that discusses how gender roles in those kinds of situations, but it would make for an interesting study.
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Thanks for the update!
Yeah, think the women who would have an issue with a teacher are in the minority.
You're welcome and I hope so. In the end, it would be be good if they ignored me for my sake if they have a problem with my profession.
I could careless what she makes. The main thing that matters to me is that how she manages her finances and what she does with it for short and long term.
The bay is pretty expensive. You need to a reasonable amount so you can avoid roommates.
Ideally, you need to be in my salary neighborhood. 20% +/- give or take. If I make 2X what you do, that is likely a bit unbalanced.
That's funny that SO many girls are like this, yet if men had this same attitude it just wouldn't work out.
It isn't even always so much salary as it is your actual job title and your education. I work in the oil field and sit in an office about 80% of the day. I made over 100k last year at 24 years old and will make a lot more this year.
I have had some girls discount me simply because they had their bachelors degree and I do not. And they have told me this directly. I find this amusing because I make more than most the engineers I work with and far more than a lot of people with degrees.
It really makes no difference to me but I do find it surprising sometimes.. I would never date a girl who would judge someone based on this anyways..
Yeah I think so as well or in any relationship where the gender roles are more traditional. I can't find anything that discusses how gender roles in those kinds of situations, but it would make for an interesting study.
I believe the abstract you linked mentioned something about trajectories and men who have aversions to gender stereotype deviations (my language here). These are distinct spaces and are often inappropriately conflated. Typically, women who have the potential to end up as high earners aren't going to cross paths with poor earning men/low status positions with these aversions. They'll be going to school, working, and socializing with men in the same position who likely end up as high or higher earners. Theses men are more likely to be progressive as well. I suspect job loss and economic crisis has catapulted a segment of women to out earn their men when they normally wouldn't and that this can cause marital stress.
Will every woman I am attracted to be okay with my income?
Answer: no
Will there be one woman in the world who is okay with my income?
Answer: yes
Since the answer is no to the first question if you replace income with height, age, race, car etc, only the second version is important. To be happy you only need one.
That's funny that SO many girls are like this, yet if men had this same attitude it just wouldn't work out.
It isn't even always so much salary as it is your actual job title and your education. I work in the oil field and sit in an office about 80% of the day. I made over 100k last year at 24 years old and will make a lot more this year.
I have had some girls discount me simply because they had their bachelors degree and I do not. And they have told me this directly. I find this amusing because I make more than most the engineers I work with and far more than a lot of people with degrees.
It really makes no difference to me but I do find it surprising sometimes.. I would never date a girl who would judge someone based on this anyways..
Yeah, a lot of people get all egoic about titles and and education levels.... meh.. whatever. 100k isn't bad cashola for a guy your age, very rare, actually...
It reminds me of a movie I saw with Kevin Spacey talking about family money and wealth, his character said "It may be Nouvea riche, but it's the riche that counts."
What about those young men who get constantly subsidized by their wealthy parents? For example they might not have a good job/income/skills but have an expensive car and a house paid off by their parents. Many women seem to like this type too. Does it matter where the money comes from?
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