Date the one who wants you or wait for the one you want? (marriages, woman)

[TheHurricaneKid]

I think the best thing to do is keep looking until you want the person that loves you.

[Idon'tdateyou]

Originally Posted by TheHurricaneKid

I think the best thing to do is keep looking until you want the person that loves you.

Having met what I think is the right one I firmly believe this. I would rather never marry than marry someone I am not crazy about. I really do think that first impressions mean a lot and if someone doesn't click right away it's the mind telling that person isn't right.

[lovesMountains]

Truly, sometimes you don't recognize the "one you want" until you've dated him a few times

A tip for you - try not to have so many pre-conceived rules and ideas about love - it is never going to look like what you are expecting.

[Frihed89]

Waiting for the one you want will get you nothing but loneliness. Look for the one you want. It's about the numbers...once you find out what you want from/in a partner.

[Yellow Jacket]

Originally Posted by Raena77

Good post Iddy!

I think I would be estatic that someone finds me interesting.

I find you interesting. That's not hard to do.

[highlife2]

I date the person that wants me, I have historicly learned that for myself if I wait around it could be years if ever. Im not willing to take that gamble with the only life that I have.

[highlife2]

Originally Posted by Frihed89

Waiting for the one you want will get you nothing but loneliness. Look for the one you want. It's about the numbers...once you find out what you want from/in a partner.

Yep and loneliness and horniness to the point of having suicidal thoughts, its time to accept someone that is into you.

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by Yellow Jacket

I find you interesting. That's not hard to do.

Thankyou.

[TaoistDude]

Slanderous nailed it: Neither.

Your idealized person will probably never come around. Your unattractive but interested person will never work out.

You wait for someone who is both interested and suitable to you. Anything else is desperation or delusion.

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by highlife2

Yep and loneliness and horniness to the point of having suicidal thoughts, its time to accept someone that is into you.

Exactly. Minus the suicidal thoughts. Everyone of the guys I had a relationship with I asked them out. They were shocked that I liked them. All were happy that I asked them. I'm told on this forum to let them ask you out. What and wait until I'm eligible for medicare?