Why the ****/stud, *****/cassanova dichotomy is not (completely) a double standard (dating, married)
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Not to go OT, but men do not start out hardwired when they are born with the desire to be studs, to sleep with as many women as possible, or to be promiscuous -- that is a socially and culturally-acquired attribute (based on traditional or conventional masculine norms), that is reinforced by society continuously since birth. Left unchecked, to their own devices, and if they are not already socially indoctrinated with the conventional masculine norms, a greater number of men might very well potentially opt for a more anti-stud, anti-promiscuous agenda. Instead, they might choose to focus more on the romantic quality of the women that they choose to bed, and thus possibly get more romantically attached, to fewer women overall, than they would if they were like Wilt Chamberlain or Charlie Sheen, in bedding countless and a near-infinite number of women.
Last edited by Phoenix2017; 08-23-2013 at 12:57 PM..
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I don't get this whole effort thing. I never put even a teeny effort into finding anyone. (Obviously thread after thread tells that I think this gate thing is the dumbest thing ever.) I just lived. Did things I thought were fun, interesting, whatever. I met other people who thought that they were fun, interesting or whatever. We talked and thought, hey YOU are fun, interesting or whatever. If it is a steamy vibe, you go out. If it is a steamy vibe and you make me laugh, we are good to go straight away. If it is not a steamy vibe, you hang out. Over time, you get to know the dude, and think wow the way he treated his Mom just there was really telling. Or did he REALLY just issue me a command like I was his servant... Or whatever leads down the road to thinking maybe the character is not there.
But I can tell you two things.
If a dude is trying to score on me, then go f yourself. You are a lousy lay, and I don't have time for you. Hot is not even in it.
When people go on about how to GET a woman/man or FIND a this or that woman/man I want to scream GO GET A LIFE AND LIVE IT, then maybe love can find you.
Lol. I'm sure that has nothing at all to do with you being a woman. You know who put all the effort in? The men approaching you.
I believe in general average people have relationships with other average people, but an average woman is more likely than an average guy to have casual sex(ons, fwb, etc.) with a hotter person.
sluts are shamed and studs are praised. male virgin is socially equated with a female ****. It has been so for thousands of years and no amount of feminist nonsensical hogwash doctrine is changing it. Ladies, be selective. Guys, get all you can. Both will be rewarded by the opposite sex.
sluts are shamed and studs are praised. male virgin is socially equated with a female ****. It has been so for thousands of years and no amount of feminist nonsensical hogwash doctrine is changing it. Ladies, be selective. Guys, get all you can. Both will be rewarded by the opposite sex.
sluts are shamed and studs are praised. male virgin is socially equated with a female ****. It has been so for thousands of years and no amount of feminist nonsensical hogwash doctrine is changing it. Ladies, be selective. Guys, get all you can. Both will be rewarded by the opposite sex.
Yet women are now encouraged to be promiscuous and slutty, and female virginity is also frowned upon.
It might be because men in general always finish, no matter who their sexual partners are. It's like the only people you hear say things like "all sex is good sex. Even when it's bad, it's good" are guys. Plently of women wouldn't agree with that. There is bad sex. Women don't always have a good time, so if they're unsure of good sex, why bother?
The entire concept of sex as an accomplishment or challenge is completely foreign to me.
Guys who see women no differently than a dirty sock.
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Originally Posted by Stockyman
It's funny, a man's value increases with the amount of women he sleeps with.
A woman's value decreases with the amount of men she sleeps with.
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Originally Posted by hawaiiancoconut
yup, some men view women like used cars; the more miles, lower the Kelly blue book value.
Who exactly is assigning value, tho? Are these people valuable themselves for their opinions to count in the first place? 2:1 they're not.
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