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I always hear this from women on here talking about the looks of their friends s/o..why do women tell their friends if they think their partners ugly? my god thats classless if i said that to my male friends about their wife i get punched in the face..
Do most women just have no filter?
I had broken up with my ex-fiance already. One of my college roommates told me that I was too hot for the guys I was dating - but it didn't bother me. Those are the only two times I recall any of my friends saying negative things about the looks of guys I was dating. But nobody has ever said anything negative about my husband. Most of my friends and I don't have the same taste in men - but that doesn't mean that we think their S/O's are ugly - just that we aren't attracted to them.
Here is an article showing that the readers are talking about a certain celebrity as if he were a piece of man-meat. It's clear that looks indeed are a part of attraction, despite people's preferences for different looks. Here are some interesting user comments:
Of course looks matter. Anyone who says otherwise should try to date someone they think look bad.
When I was in my first relationship I dated a girl who I though was bad looking, because I was desperate. The problem is that you get embarrassed showing her off to your friends and family.
However, that doesn't mean you need to look like Zac Efron. Its important to be decent looking, but after that personality matters more.
I had broken up with my ex-fiance already. One of my college roommates told me that I was too hot for the guys I was dating - but it didn't bother me. Those are the only two times I recall any of my friends saying negative things about the looks of guys I was dating. But nobody has ever said anything negative about my husband. Most of my friends and I don't have the same taste in men - but that doesn't mean that we think their S/O's are ugly - just that we aren't attracted to them.
That's how it usually goes. Not many people will criticize a current partner (though I'm sure they all have opinions,) because that's not what friends do. Though when talking about old boyfriends or past relationships someone might say, "oh, I never thought he was good-looking enough for you" or "remember those pants he used to wear? What was he thinking?" or something.
I always hear this from women on here talking about the looks of their friends s/o..why do women tell their friends if they think their partners ugly? my god thats classless if i said that to my male friends about their wife i get punched in the face..
Do most women just have no filter?
What? I've never known any women to talk about their friends partners like that.
I don't talk about my friends partners, nor do they mine.
Anyway, of course looks matter on some level. To some people, more than others.
To some people, a persons inside and attitude helps make them look more attractive/uglier.
To others, attractiveness is very important. Others, not as much.
But everyone has things they prefer. Some are willing to compromise, others maybe not as much.
I would think this is a no-brainer.
I'll never forget my first crush. When I first met him, I definitely did not like him. He was NOT attractive in anyway. Later, I made friends with his sister and started spending the night at his house, so he was there. I got to know him and found myself falling for him because of his sense of humor and who he was. It was odd because I was not physically attracted to him at ALL. But, I wanted to be with him though, and after some time I was attracted to him physically. I saw him differently after some time. After knowing him, I saw him in a completely different light.
There was another time, a guy in school was very attractive and I liked him, but I got to know him. He was such a jerk, a horrible person. He said horrible things about people, really selfish and arrogant. It got to the point where I couldn't even look at him. I didn't want to be around him at all, I couldn't stand him. While he still looked exactly the same, I couldn't stand the sight of him. He became so ugly to me.
All this talk about looks. It makes you wonder that if looks matter this much than how is it that all of these "ugly people" and fat people have kids. Something doesn't add up
Yeah, that argument, if it's a serious attempt to debunk the importance of beauty. Makeup, alcohol, post-bonding aging (mainly weight gain), familiarity (especially facial similarity), desperation, greed - it's probably rare for objectively unattractive people to be much physically attracted to each other early on while not under the influence.
Getting back to the original question, most people are conflict-averse and care about reputation, while valuing people for their inner qualities is considered virtuous.
Here is an article showing that the readers are talking about a certain celebrity as if he were a piece of man-meat. It's clear that looks indeed are a part of attraction, despite people's preferences for different looks. Here are some interesting user comments:
We live in the political correctness era, saying that looks don't matter because the inner beauty is what is important is the politically correct thing to say.
OP, who do you know who says looks don't matter? They certainly matter more to some than others, but I don't think there are many who could truly say they don't matter at all.
We live in the political correctness era, saying that looks don't matter because the inner beauty is what is important is the politically correct thing to say.
Oh, well yeah, people do say that. Ever notice that it's usually really outwardly attractive people who say inner beauty is more important? We humans tend to be invisible to our own privilege.
I think people underestimate the power of touch and darkness. Get together when drunk and further on in the relationship turn off the lights and be touchy-feely - the guide to sex for ugly couples.
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my god thats classless if i said that to my male friends about their wife i get punched in the face..
