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looks matter to the vast majority of people , women are especially dishonest about this reality , they perceive prioritising looks as shallow
I don't think anyone is saying looks don't matter at all...that would be silly. However, saying looks are the most important thing IS shallow as there is so much more to a person than what they look like.
I also think men put FAR more of an emphasis on looks than women do, but women do still find looks important.
Perhaps women try to disconnect from the reality because their attractiveness can quickly change, for example from mild weight gain. What I mean is that it might be cognitive trick to boost self-esteem and security. In addition to avoiding inciting anger, protecting reputation, etc.
Perhaps women try to disconnect from the reality because their attractiveness can quickly change, for example from mild weight gain. What I mean is that it might be cognitive trick to boost self-esteem and security. In addition to avoiding inciting anger, protecting reputation, etc.
Well, that's because women are judged almost solely based on what they look like while men aren't, for everything from finding a partner to job opportunities. Once a woman's looks go (or never had them to begin with) she's basically considered worthless by society.
The definition of “crazy” in show business is a woman who keeps talking even after no one wants to **** her anymore. ~Tina Fey
I think this applies to life outside of show business as well.
Men are judged on their looks in all those situations, but tend not to be as openly criticized if their looks are inadequate. Consequently, men can more easily genuinely believe that their looks don't matter. Cluelessness vs. denial and dishonesty.
I don't think anyone is saying looks don't matter at all...that would be silly. However, saying looks are the most important thing IS shallow as there is so much more to a person than what they look like.
I also think men put FAR more of an emphasis on looks than women do, but women do still find looks important.
I see ugly and average people partnered up all the time women included..Theyres no evidence that men are more picky with looks..people are as shallow as their options..
I see ugly and average people partnered up all the time women included..Theyres no evidence that men are more picky with looks..people are as shallow as their options..
Oh, I absolutely agree with that last part. I've worked with lots of guys that complained constantly about their wives/girlfriends looks but knew that's the best they could do. Rarely heard it from women, though it did happen from time to time. The women I knew mostly complained about their SOs being lazy or ungrateful, but rarely complained about their looks.
From my experience, however, men are FAR pickier about looks but know when they have to settle. They won't be happy about it though.
looks matter to the vast majority of people , women are especially dishonest about this reality , they perceive prioritising looks as shallow
I agree. Look, let's be honest all things considered what is the first thing you notice about someone? The way they look. Without that, most people wouldn't take the time to find out about all of those other qualities. Take two people. Everything the same. Personality, same type of charm, status, power, money are all equal. However, one looks like a hermit and one looks like a prince. Who is the girl going to go for?
Bottom line, and it's been said. Looks will get you in the door, but looks alone won't keep ya. After the initial attraction, the person has to like the persons values, morals, behaviors, etc.
Beyond all that, what I really wanted to say is, "haven't we beaten this subject to death about ten to fifteen times in the past year? Let's give it a rest. Men and women like to be with someone whom they are attracted to all things being equal. Is that supposed to be a bad thing?
I already see the counter argument, "but, but, if they aren't nice, etc. etc. I get all that. Your answer is in the first paragraph.
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I haven't been here for a year, but I'll trust that this topic keeps coming up. I think the main reason is that people are frustrated at not being able to find attractive mates. There is a shortage, and maybe it's time for people to try to fix that (meaning encouraging each other to improve themselves). Certainly accept the reality (about looks) and somehow deal with it.
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