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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Another thing: Her ideal guy has the characteristics of a really good guy: Compassionate, smart, health conscious, socially conscious. You would think guys here would think that's a really good thing seeing the many complaints about women wanting bad boys.
Some of them are the characteristics of a really good guy. Lots of are characteristics of a boring guy. How about some balance?
Just because you agree with the OP doesn't mean she is right. If you two feel as such, fine whatever, it's your prerogative. But to state "we are upset cause we dont meet...."
Perhaps she finds atheist, vegetarian, artsy, educated, not-fat guy.... mayyyyyybe.
I don't get the vibe the OP is brings enough to the table to have such requirements.
Doing the math in my head, considering just the combo of atheist/vegi, I would guess her dating pool is something like 0.05% of american population. I'm guestimating, and no, I'm not showing my work. I mean, her guy would have to give up BACON. How many guys actually do that? I know theres a lot of vegetarians out there, but the OP wants to control what another person eats? What if the guy 5 years later says I want a burger and ribs? Will she dump him ?
In her brief time from what I have seen, she comes to this board, with requirements/expectations for man X, and I think it's a bad philosophy to have.
To each their own.
IT's pretty easy to find the act of eating a dead thing repulsive. Either you are so aloof and ignorant you see nothing wrong with it, or you're a rare one like me who cringes at the thought of French kissing someone with corpse meat residue stuck between their teeth.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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it's pretty easy to find the act of eating a dead thing repulsive. Either you are so aloof and ignorant you see nothing wrong with it, or you're a rare one like me who cringes at the thought of french kissing someone with corpse meat residue stuck between their teeth.
A man that is sophisticated, smart, cultured, atheist, clean shaven, dressed well, educated; will have OPTIONS and won't necessarily want to settle down in an exclusive relationship.
Why is it men who meet these qualities are expected to be into casual sex, polyamorous, etc.? A great guy can't WANT to be exclusive with one great woman? I am a quality girl, and I only want ONE. Goddamn, maybe I should just give up if that's really the case.
Another thing: Her ideal guy has the characteristics of a really good guy: Compassionate, smart, health conscious, socially conscious. You would think guys here would think that's a really good thing seeing the many complaints about women wanting bad boys.
Yeah...but oh, I'm just SO demanding...it's like you guys are saying all men are lazy, debauched, sex-fiend slobs, and asking for anything beyond that makes me some kind of demanding priss. Sad, just sad, people.
IL -- And when you do, let me know! (I'll be 24 in a few days)
-clean shaven (twice a week, let it grow two days, then shave again)
-dresses well, at least tries to match (Keyword--- tries)
-is educated (Does a BA in Business/Finance count)
-does not follow any religion (Can't stand brainwashing)
-likes socialism and thinks taxation is necessary to a properly functioning country; supports the Affordable Care Act and knows it's the same as Obamacare - (I could care less about politics-- I support universal healthcare)
-wants a monogamous, long-term relationship (What I'm looking for also)
-would never go to a strip club, cheat, hire a sugar baby etc. (I went to a strip club once for a friends birthday. Hopefully that doesn't exclude me!)
-enjoys art galleries, travelling (I've been to Brussels, Amsterdam, Munich, Istanbul and Zurich. I'll be going to Dublin and Paris in December this year. I can't wait to go to the Louvre. I also love camping and hiking)
-is vegetarian (Sorry, I have no problems with vegetarians, nor with vegetarian dishes (I actually love Asian / Indian food vegetarian style more than with meat), but I want my occasional burger and turkey at Thanksgiving)
-doesn't like sports so much (I don't know a damn thing about sports, but I did my first NCAA basketball bracket this spring and won at work... based off of team mascots and where friends went to school)
Facts:
I currently am listening to Beethoven. Sometimes that will change to DJ Tiesto. Or Toby Keith. My mood with music changes all the time.
I'm a long time runner. I've been running since I was in Jr high and now run half and full marathons competitively.
I drive a manual transmission because it's fun and because I get better gas mileage.
I'm an iNTj - This means I'm usually introverted, so bars aren't my scene. On the other hand, I have no problem stepping up and leading something with a group I'm comfortable with, nor with going out and talking to strangers when traveling.
I cook probably 90% of my meals (although half are in a crock pot, for convenience). Cheaper and healthier
I don't like the taste of coffee.
So... how does this sound to you? Or am I eliminated?
I'd like to live somewhere where my chances of finding a man fitting the following characteristics is higher than average:
-clean shaven
-dresses well, at least tries to match
-is educated
-does not follow any religion
-likes socialism and thinks taxation is necessary to a properly functioning country; supports the Affordable Care Act and knows it's the same as Obamacare
-wants a monogamous, long-term relationship
-would never go to a strip club, cheat, hire a sugar baby etc.
-enjoys art galleries, travelling
-is vegetarian
-doesn't like sports so much
I suppose I'm attracted to more metrosexual types.
You have an awfully long list there. You know, the problem with criteria like that is this: Every time you add an item to it, you eliminate another slew of possible guys who are otherwise great people.
As it stands, I'm guessing there are about ten guys on the planet who fit every single one of your qualifications. Of those, five are taken, three are not interested in sex, and two of them won't think you're all that.
Not really oriented towards you in particular, but politics is about the most stupid reason of all to eliminate someone. To do so smacks of moral vanity, namely the belief that one's own positions are so beyond reproach that anyone who differs must be either stupid or evil. In fact, I'll go one step further. Judging people on how they vote every other November borders on shallow and one-dimensional, because there are so many facets to a person.
What if someone fits all the other criteria you hold out, but might differ in a few ways from your own beliefs? Is he out the door simply because he cancels out your vote every other November? I mean, sure, if the guy plays the speeches of Adolph Hitler or watches Bill O'Reilly, then deep six the guy. But otherwise, try having an open mind. Because people who judge other people based on their politics (And people who spend all that time thinking about politics) are ultimately highly boring and unsatisfying people who have sacrificed their own intellectual lives to parrot the bullet points of others.
Second, you're not really looking for a man here. You're kind of looking for a clone of yourself in male form, somebody who thinks, looks and acts just like yourself. Jeez, what fun is that? In a lot of ways my wife isn't like me at all. Half the fun of a relationship is the personal growth you experience by learning to be with a person who doesn't see the world through you-colored glasses.
But if you cling to a list like this, might as well go ahead and adopt five or six cats and learn to knit them sweaters. Because you're in for a long and lonely life.
I'm not saying go out and compromise every belief you have, but how about restricting this incredibly long and tedious list down to one, two, or even three things.
In fact, I'm going to simplify your life and narrow your list down to the essentials: 1) Chemistry; 2) Consideration of you and others; 3) Interesting to be around. You can thank me later.
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