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-clean shaven - CHECK (7 days a week, professional / personal choice)
-dresses well, at least tries to match - CHECK again personal choice
-is educated - CHECK Masters in Engineering
-does not follow any religion - CHECK - Personal choice
-likes socialism and thinks taxation is necessary to a properly functioning country; supports the Affordable Care Act and knows it's the same as Obamacare - CHECK personal choice
-wants a monogamous, long-term relationship - CHECK if I am in a relationship, it better be long term.
-would never go to a strip club, cheat, hire a sugar baby etc - CHECK if I am in a relationship, why would I make it unhealthy
-enjoys art galleries, travelling - CHECK - travelling frequesnt, art occasional
-is vegetarian - CHECK - turned vegetarian recently
-doesn't like sports so much - CHECK - glance thru the news to keep myself updated.
Now the thing is even if I meet your requirements, which I do, I'd like you to meet my requirements, for a perfect match
- dresses exceptionally well.
- Should be very fit.
- financially stable.
- professionally established.
- would be willing to experiment in bed.
- would be willing to satiate me 24 x 7.
- should be involved / participating in cooking (I like to cook)
- should be atleast a C or D size with a waist not to exceed 28.
Well I'm basically boob-less, but planning on getting some fake knockers as soon as I can afford to.
I'm not professionally established in the slightest, still in university. Do a lot of guys think that's important?
I got to know a man as he is, and guess what, he spends 15 hours a week watching football but won't for the life of him accompany me to a gallery to admire some great art. He also tried to cheat on me every chance he got, and expressed to his friends how much he hates the prospect of staying with a girl for more than two years. Meanwhile my moving to another country and paying ridiculous amount of international tuition for him. Oh, and he does not even try to match, nor does he shave his salt and pepper beard often--when he would be so much more attractive if he did. And thus, I vow to pick the next guy much more gingerly.
Anyone will have issues when their s/o tries to cheat.
Good call ending that situation. You won't get any flack regarding that decision.
But people aren't made up of lists.
The trick is, as many have said, even if you found this 'list' guy, you may not be a good fit.
You obviously had chemistry with the last 'bad' choice. But chemistry isn' always a given.... well.... depends.... thats another topic.
Try to choose a guy you date who has better character and integrity. Sound likethe last guy lacked such important traits.
Hopefully the next guy you date treats you better.
Well I'm basically boob-less, but planning on getting some fake knockers as soon as I can afford to.
I'm not professionally established in the slightest, still in university. Do a lot of guys think that's important?
It's increasingly competitive world, newer breed of guys think like typical females as far as mating preferences go, meaning career, education, money, etc.. Few want a stay at home wife or a wife (with less education) that makes significantly less. Domestic value of a modern stay at home wife/husband approaches zero (especially if there are no kids involved). Socialist inclined individuals shouldn't care much about little bit of domestic redistribution, but apparently they do care a lot.
Yeah right. Guys NEVER approach me at random. They did a lot back in LA, but never here in Canada. And I'm not going to say something random to a guy just because I'm attracted to him. Online dating makes thins a lot easier, because not only can I tell whether he's attractive, but also if he's looking, and if we have anything in common.
This really has nothing to do with what I'm saying. I'm saying - go outside, live your life, meet people, and see where things go. Just because a guy likes sports - it doesn't mean he's going to cheat on you. And just because someone isn't atheist doesn't mean that you won't be compatible. I'm pretty much an atheist - my husband was raised Southern Baptist but isn't religious at all. However, if he had been doing online dating - he might have checked off the "Christian" box just because that's how he was raised - even though he's never really believed in it. He would never call himself an atheist.
People meet all the time through work, school, parties, friends, activities, etc. - I know very few people that met someone because they hit on them. And like I said - even if you meet this Mr. Perfect you are seeking, he might be a real d-bag.
-clean shaven - CHECK (7 days a week, professional / personal choice)
-dresses well, at least tries to match - CHECK again personal choice
-is educated - CHECK Masters in Engineering
-does not follow any religion - CHECK - Personal choice
-likes socialism and thinks taxation is necessary to a properly functioning country; supports the Affordable Care Act and knows it's the same as Obamacare - CHECK personal choice
-wants a monogamous, long-term relationship - CHECK if I am in a relationship, it better be long term.
-would never go to a strip club, cheat, hire a sugar baby etc - CHECK if I am in a relationship, why would I make it unhealthy
-enjoys art galleries, travelling - CHECK - travelling frequesnt, art occasional
-is vegetarian - CHECK - turned vegetarian recently
-doesn't like sports so much - CHECK - glance thru the news to keep myself updated.
Now the thing is even if I meet your requirements, which I do, I'd like you to meet my requirements, for a perfect match
- dresses exceptionally well.
- Should be very fit.
- financially stable.
- professionally established.
- would be willing to experiment in bed.
- would be willing to satiate me 24 x 7.
- should be involved / participating in cooking (I like to cook)
- should be atleast a C or D size with a waist not to exceed 28.
The only thing that doesn't seem congruent is the point about being willing to satiate you 24-7. All of the other things are either traits, qualities, or a life situation. Satiating you is very you-centric whereas the others are not. The OP isn't asking the man for anything her-centric, or asking a man to do anything for or with her. She's just looking for certain qualities and interests.
I'd like to live somewhere where my chances of finding a man fitting the following characteristics is higher than average:
-clean shaven
-dresses well, at least tries to match
-is educated
-does not follow any religion
-likes socialism and thinks taxation is necessary to a properly functioning country; supports the Affordable Care Act and knows it's the same as Obamacare
-wants a monogamous, long-term relationship
-would never go to a strip club, cheat, hire a sugar baby etc.
-enjoys art galleries, travelling
-is vegetarian
-doesn't like sports so much
OP, I really don't understand why so many people are attacking you or being sarcastic with you. With the exception of vegetarianism and the occasional hockey fan, you've pretty much described many of the men I've known. People are reacting like you have this great big list of unattainable or unreasonable demands, but really, it sounds to me like you are just looking for an educated, liberal, cultured man who shares your beliefs, doesn't look like a slob, and won't cheat on you. You're not asking for traits that can't be helped, like height or age, and you're not demonstrating superficiality by focusing on weight (other than from a health POV) or possessions. Also, if you look at what you're asking for on a spectrum, a lot of those things are clustered together, like vegetarianism, socialism, and not following any religion, which speak to left-leaning ideology. DC is filled to the gills with such men. You'd have a field day there. I sure did.
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Originally Posted by djohanna
The exact opposite of a guy like the following:
-has a huge, unkempt beard
-is fat from spending so much time indoors playing video games, eating lots of meat, and giving no thought to what constitutes a healthy diet. likely to get heart disease.
-rowdy and undivertable attention when sports come on, namely football.
-is open about his sleaziness. has posters of bikini clad girls on his wall or computer desktop.
-has strong opinions about things he doesn't know about. posts angry, rude comments on Youtube which lack logic.
-despises vegetarians, makes fun of vegans
-despises liberals...
-has a Confederate flag on the back of his truck
-watches porn for at least an hour a day, would love to hire a camgirl if he could
-or, he's rich and has a sugar baby/mistress behind his wife's back...discretion is very important to him, to protect his reputation as a career/family man
-or, he is hipster-esque, tries to look cool in instagram shots, wears funny glasses, and only dates.
-despises police and people with money and power
Oh, and not for nothing, but all of those things turn me off in a blink of an eye. I wouldn't find any of that attractive either. Yuck. Just yuck. I have no desire to date someone who could be on Duck Dynasty.
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Reason: ghastly typo
I'd like to live somewhere where my chances of finding a man fitting the following characteristics is higher than average:
-clean shaven
-dresses well, at least tries to match
-is educated
-does not follow any religion
-likes socialism and thinks taxation is necessary to a properly functioning country; supports the Affordable Care Act and knows it's the same as Obamacare
-wants a monogamous, long-term relationship
-would never go to a strip club, cheat, hire a sugar baby etc.
-enjoys art galleries, travelling
-is vegetarian
-doesn't like sports so much
I suppose I'm attracted to more metrosexual types.
The exact opposite of a guy like the following:
-has a huge, unkempt beard
-is fat from spending so much time indoors playing video games, eating lots of meat, and giving no thought to what constitutes a healthy diet. likely to get heart disease.
-rowdy and undivertable attention when sports come on, namely football.
-is open about his sleaziness. has posters of bikini clad girls on his wall or computer desktop.
-has strong opinions about things he doesn't know about. posts angry, rude comments on Youtube which lack logic.
-despises vegetarians, makes fun of vegans
-despises liberals...
-has a Confederate flag on the back of his truck
-watches porn for at least an hour a day, would love to hire a camgirl if he could
-or, he's rich and has a sugar baby/mistress behind his wife's back...discretion is very important to him, to protect his reputation as a career/family man
-or, he is hipster-esque, tries to look cool in instagram shots, wears funny glasses, and only dates.
-despises police and people with money and power
"Smart" is a relative term, it is very rare to find an individual who is 'smart' in all types of intelligence for there an infinite number of intelligence since 'intelligence' is not limited to simply mental pursuits but extends to physical pursuits and beyond.~
As to the rest of your 'terms' and 'requirements', it seems each person has their own definition of these words for your definitions come off as 'arrogant', 'foolish', and 'pretentious' to me when they probably do not to you.~
It's funny how many of you people equate a guy who doesn't eat meat, matches his clothes and has good hygiene, and isn't ridiculously interested in ball game shows to be gay.
That's actually really sad.
Maybe it's why it's so hard for me to find a guy like that.
It's funny how many of you people equate a guy who doesn't eat meat, matches his clothes and has good hygiene, and isn't ridiculously interested in ball game shows to be gay.
That's actually really sad.
Maybe it's why it's so hard for me to find a guy like that.
Your list shouldn't be that hard to come by, I have a feeling as you get older you may have to back off a couple of them....
But yeah, clean shaven and basic hygiene doesn't equate to gay.
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