My child's teacher has crush on me (girlfriends, women, singles)
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I stand corrected then. You are entirely right and justified and should take your son out of not only that school, but school in general, sue the district and bring charges against the teacher.
By the way, could you wife be exaggerating just a little?
Seriously. You have no idea how many people would do this. It's crazy.
Everyone here is giving you great advice. Do NOTHING.
You dont want to greatly affect your child by having to switch schools over this teachers silly crush.
its not fair.
When you are in contact with the teacher, and shes overly nice to you just act non chalantly. U said that back in the day u wouldve totally been attracted to her rite? Does that statement show in your interactions with her when you are alone or not in your wifes immediate presence?
I ask because sometimes we arent aware of our actions in some social situations.
If theres a parent teacher meeting where both you and your wife attend together, pull out a chair for your wife, put your arm around your wifes chair. you dont have to do this, but anything to show that you are attentive to your wife and that u love her. its kinda like getting the message across that youre in a marriage.
Some people only see with their heart but need to see with their eyes too. Perhaps if the teacher sees a united front, she will be discouraged and then start crazy crushing on someone else.
If your wife participates in classroom activities i suggest she still should...Even though the teacher is being stupid with her. Your wife needs to be firm with the teacher but not stepping on toes either. If your wife continues to be pleasant, and the teacher nasty, well than your wife can kindly ask her what is wrong.
i mean, other people notice this teachers behavior towards your wife so it wouldnt be coming out of left field for your wife to ask her if somethings wrong in a situation when your wife is being pleasant and cordial and the teacher is acting like hell on wheels with her and her only.
this may be good as the teacher may not realize how she acts towards your wife and might keep her crush more under control . good luck
oh, one more thing, ask your child about the teacher. ask if the teacher asks them anything about home or asks them about you or your wife. if this nut bag for a teacher starts bothering your kid, i will bring it up to the school principal and administration and further. then get your kid out of that classroom.
The easiest solution to this problem is for you to stay away from school for the remainder of this school year. It's second grade so this shouldn't be too difficult. Also, since this teacher has made it very clear she doesn't want your wife as a volunteer any longer, she should bow out gracefully and only go to school when she's invited to conferences, performances, etc. By limiting the contact both of you have with this teacher you'll be negating this problem.
Everyone here is giving you great advice. Do NOTHING.
You dont want to greatly affect your child by having to switch schools over this teachers silly crush.
its not fair.
When you are in contact with the teacher, and shes overly nice to you just act non chalantly. U said that back in the day u wouldve totally been attracted to her rite? Does that statement show in your interactions with her when you are alone or not in your ifes immediate presence?
I ask because sometimes we arent aware of our actions in some social situations.
If your wife participates in classroom activities i suggest she still should...Even though the teacher is being stupid with her. Your wife needs to be firm with the teacher but not stepping on toes either. If your wife continues to be pleasant, and the teacher nasty, well than your wife can kindly ask her what is wrong.
i mean, other people notice this teachers behavior towards your wife so it wouldnt be coming out of left field for your wife to ask her if somethings wrong in a situation when your wife is being pleasant and cordial and the teacher is acting like hell o wheels with her and her only.
this may be good as the teacher may not realize how she acts towards your wife and might keep her crush more under control . good luck
The OP said that his wife was told 2 weeks ago that she's no longer allowed to volunteer but that he is more than welcome. When a teacher tells you that you can't volunteer in the classroom then you can't just keep showing up. Best thing for the OP and his wife is to keep their distance and just be pleasant when around the teacher and keep communications ONLY about the son.
And the son shouldn't be questioned. He's in 2nd grade so my guess is he's about 7 or 8. At that age they really don't know how to answer a question. They're not lying on purpose--they're just giving answers thinking that's what mom and dad want to hear. And the son may very well like his teacher and just say, "Hey, Miss Teacher, my mom and dad were asking me if you ask about my home life." They're so innocent and not realize what they're saying. The son shouldn't be involved at all.
The easiest solution to this problem is for you to stay away from school for the remainder of this school year. It's second grade so this shouldn't be too difficult. Also, since this teacher has made it very clear she doesn't want your wife as a volunteer any longer, she should bow out gracefully and only go to school when she's invited to conferences, performances, etc. By limiting the contact both of you have with this teacher you'll be negating this problem.
His wife could actually volunteer in the teachers' workroom if she still wants to volunteer. She will be helping out all of the teachers and not just her son's.
Changing schools should not be an option. It will turn your son's world upside down. He has friends in his classroom/school and sometimes being the new kid isn't always easy when going into a new school. I've seen it with my daughter when we moved. She was in the same grade as your son and for the first year or so it was hard for her to make new friends.
I agree with the others. Leave it alone for now-hopefully the next few months will go fast. I know it may be difficult, but would it be possible for you not to go up to the school other than for events that your son is involved with, such as a class play? If you have to pick him up from school, make contact short as possible. If she tries to engage you in conversation just politely excuse yourself, let her know you're in a bit of a rush and tell her you have an appointment or errands to tend to. Maybe the less she sees you the quicker her crush will dissipate.
I don't think you need to remind your wife that nothing will happen. Your wife should continue to volunteer unless she feels absolutely uncomfortable. If the teacher starts to retaliate through your son then perhaps just changing his teacher could be an option. A difficult situation for all, but I hope it all works out for you.
I moved around too much when I was a teenager, and under normal circumstances I would agree, but there are special circumstances in this situation. My son already is a part of open enrollment and has friends from the neighborhood we live in as well as his class, so it would not be a totally new school with nobody he knows.
However the school he is in was picked for a couple of reasons, my daughter has severe autism, and the school my son is now in was the closest school with her programs. We built a very good relationship with that school, including the principal and other teachers like art and gym, with my wife still having a very close relationship to many of my daughters former teachers (close enough to be invited to birthday parties and baby showers). The other reason that my son is at that school is that it is more focused on the basics, reading writing, history, science, and math are still the primary subjects, while the neighborhood school has a more contemporary education plan (according to the district).
That being said with my wife's connections, she was able to get my son and his friends from kindergarten into my daughters former teachers classroom in 1st grade, that teacher helped get the same group from 1st grade into the same class in 2nd grade, with the teacher that is thought to be the best in the school for that grade.
Personally I have avoided volunteering much at the schools since I volunteered in an autism only classroom a few years ago with my daughter, and had a horrible experience (I do not know how special ed teachers deal with it, I still feel they are saints). However my wife has always volunteered weekly in my son's and my daughter's classrooms, it is the joy of her week. I also grew up with a mother who ran a daycare and was heavily involved in my classrooms as a child, and want to give my son that same experience as I think her working with our teachers throughout our years in elementary schools helped my siblings and I get the education that has allowed all of us to thrive as we got older. So I would like to give him the same experience, but know that reality is people cannot control fully control their emotions, and sometimes everybody's emotions get the better of them. I would hate to see the teacher get in trouble, because I do think she is a very good teacher, but am walking a fine line to keep my wife happy, and think there must be a decent way to get them both past this.
I stand corrected then. You are entirely right and justified and should take your son out of not only that school, but school in general, sue the district and bring charges against the teacher.
By the way, could you wife be exaggerating just a little?
So I am overreacting because I want to minimize the punishment my son may receive, but it is a good idea to raise all that hell.
Yes my wife could be exaggerating, but when other parents are in the classroom and notice it, that means it exists.
So I am overreacting because I want to minimize the punishment my son may receive, but it is a good idea to raise all that hell.
I was being snarky. My advice remains to wait it out and do nothing. I still thing you and your wife are making mroe out of it than needs to be.
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Originally Posted by jwiley
Yes my wife could be exaggerating, but when other parents are in the classroom and notice it, that means it exists.
If I read the first posts correctly, you initially thought your wife was making more of it than there was. Later, you began to see her point, but only after she had a problem with the teacher. If I also read it correctly, everything is coming from your wife in regards to the reactions of her riends and other parents. (Although technically, it's coming from you what your wife is saying other people are noticing.)
Since this is a relationship forum, I'd suggest you tell your wife to chill for a while. Take the advice of a post above me and not go to as many school functions. Don't speak about in front of either of your children. If, by some strange happenstance, the teacher keeps being a problem, an actual problem, then go through the chain of command and start with the principal at the school.
But right now, I'm still not seeing why this is the huge deal that you say your wife is making it out to be.
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