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Move to the West Coast, or the Northeast. Bonanza!
That would be nice.... But I'm on limited income and can't afford to move very far or buy any property in an expensive western or New England state. Also not eager to go anywhere with long cold winters.... lol.
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I have heard the women on craigslist arent picky, if you aren't
Most are picky in the women seeking men section..... especially the older ones near my age. They all demand "full time jobs" and "his own place" and often be a church-goer..... while the younger ones are picky about age (won't date older)... I won't even answer most female posts. Even in the casual encounters is mostly young women wanting only young men. Most are smokers and single moms (or grandmas) anyway... I just post my own ads for CF non-smokers and let the women reply first. (and I put statements in there like "must be willing to date a guy on limited income" to weed out the gold-diggers..... lol)
We're approaching two years' duration for this thread, and it's interesting to ponder how our various experiences have evolved.
It's a multifarious issue, begging for profuse elaboration; but I'll be brief. There appears to be strong correlation amongst all of the following:
* having extensive formal education
* having interest in the arts, literature and intellectual pursuits of various flavors
* residing and working in a "hip", urbane and pluralistic location
* secular/agnostic world-view
* being child-free-by-choice
The upshot is that if one finds oneself in a milieu where several of the above attributes are commonly found, then finding a child-free potential romantic partner becomes straightforward. But if one's locale and community are not receptive to such attributes, then few people will be child-free.
And now for a contentious and potentially insensitive remark. In the economically disadvantaged and socially conservative areas, those people who are nevertheless child-free tend to be, shall we say, of marginal personal appeal. Successful professionals in such areas overwhelmingly have children. Persons without children tend to suffer from severe mental or physical health issues, from substance abuse, a dissolute and listless life, or other factors not conducive to romantic appeal.
In other words, in Boston and San Francisco not only is there a plethora of child-free people, but those people are interesting, accomplished and appealing. In Peoria and Little Rock, not only are there proportionately fewer child-free people, but those who are available tend to be, well, unappealing.
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In other words, in Boston and San Francisco not only is there a plethora of child-free people, but those people are interesting, accomplished and appealing. In Peoria and Little Rock, not only are there proportionately fewer child-free people, but those who are available tend to be, well, unappealing.
Which are darn good reasons not to be in those places. There is a good reason I bailed on Fort Wayne really fast. Even though the opportunity there was good, it isn't worth it to have a crummy social life.
Heck, even where I am now, I can move 15 miles and change communities and save a considerable chunk more money. Is that worth it for the net negative effect on my social life? Not a chance. You only live once and money remains just money.
Which are darn good reasons not to be in those places. There is a good reason I bailed on Fort Wayne really fast. Even though the opportunity there was good, it isn't worth it to have a crummy social life.
Heck, even where I am now, I can move 15 miles and change communities and save a considerable chunk more money. Is that worth it for the net negative effect on my social life? Not a chance. You only live once and money remains just money.
It's a difficult tradeoff. I'm a narrow specialist who's carved out a niche, a commodious and rewarding career. It would be foolish to forego it, or even to entertain any drastic changes. But socially - whether for dating, for good conversation, for after-dinner drinks, for rewarding friendships - it's moribund and bland.
Software is ubiquitous, and can be pursued anywhere - Boston or Bangalore. But if you are, say, a giraffe-herder, that's much easier to accommodate in the environs of Cambridge, Ohio, than Cambridge, Massachusetts. As a young man, maybe I should have reconsidered my dream of going into professional giraffe-herding. As a middle-aged man, the only viable option seems to be to save my nickles and to take early-retirement, whereupon I could relocate and parlay my giraffe-skills into feeding the pigeons in Harvard Square.
It's a difficult tradeoff. I'm a narrow specialist who's carved out a niche, a commodious and rewarding career. It would be foolish to forego it, or even to entertain any drastic changes. But socially - whether for dating, for good conversation, for after-dinner drinks, for rewarding friendships - it's moribund and bland.
Software is ubiquitous, and can be pursued anywhere - Boston or Bangalore. But if you are, say, a giraffe-herder, that's much easier to accommodate in the environs of Cambridge, Ohio, than Cambridge, Massachusetts. As a young man, maybe I should have reconsidered my dream of going into professional giraffe-herding. As a middle-aged man, the only viable option seems to be to save my nickles and to take early-retirement, whereupon I could relocate and parlay my giraffe-skills into feeding the pigeons in Harvard Square.
I've entertained moving as well, but ultimately I'm comfortable in my town, love the people I work with, and with a girlfriend, my town would be easy. The urban life is difficult when you're single, but when you meet that special someone, the urban life then becomes very manageable. It's the prime reason why I'm always reluctant to pack my bags and essentially start over somewhere else.
I truly enjoy going to my job about 95% of the time. That can be hard to replicate in a career change. Yeah, my social life has taken a hit, but only because most of my friends are married and/or starting to have children. It's not like any of them are moving to other towns, they're settling in and making a life for themselves.
My issue with my town is only the lack of single available women, it's not really the town I have a problem with. Pairing up for a relationship is hard, even though the actual dating is fairly easy. I'm just a little worn out on just strictly dating.
Most are picky in the women seeking men section..... especially the older ones near my age. They all demand "full time jobs" and "his own place" and often be a church-goer..... while the younger ones are picky about age (won't date older)... I won't even answer most female posts. Even in the casual encounters is mostly young women wanting only young men. Most are smokers and single moms (or grandmas) anyway... I just post my own ads for CF non-smokers and let the women reply first. (and I put statements in there like "must be willing to date a guy on limited income" to weed out the gold-diggers..... lol)
I've put a well written ad on there a couple of times. Other than a handful of webcam/scammers, no one replied.
I've put a well written ad on there a couple of times. Other than a handful of webcam/scammers, no one replied.
Apparently, I'm too ugly for Craigslist too.
I got a date from a CL ad just 2 weeks ago and keep getting replies.... but I also have them running in 8 cities at once within a 150 mile radius... and in Atlanta also (240 miles) hoping someone may be willing to move... I don't post pics in my ads on there... but women do find me good looking.
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