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If she is sleeping with you and someeone else because its still "casual" thats dangerous. But if she is sleeping with FB and stringing you out thats the least respectable place for a guy to be, no one wants to be that guy. If you called a FB instead of sleeping with your date then just cut him loose, hopefully he will have the intuition to know he is being played.
...with a woman who only believes in having sex inside committed, long term relationships?
Depends I guess on what that is. If I was with a woman who expressed this early on, I'd be open to it, if she had other qualities that intrigued me further. After a couple months, I would have a pretty good grasp if this is someone I wanted to invest more time with. At that point I would expect her to be at least comfortable enough with me in which we share celebrating ourselves in front of one another. Maybe exploring one another using hands only. Again, if she has other qualities that make me feel waiting is justified though, I'm up for it.
I did date a woman where I held out for 8 months. And I never cheated on an exclusive partner regardless how much sex I was getting. I can be tough
Well, it could, but thank God for good quality condoms.
Condoms help but they don't protect against all STD's (you can still get herpes and HPV).
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You're not wrong, because I would NOT be cool with that.
I wouldn't be either. Glad I'm married otherwise I'd likely be the crazy cat lady...LOL
There is no way I'd be sleeping with someone before we were exclusive. I could not get into it, knowing that his dip stick is making the rounds.
I guess I just don't see what the major issue is. If you decide to be exclusive, you have sex and after several attempts you realize you aren't that compatible in bed, can't you just end the relationship and go back to dating others? Isn't that really the beauty of not being married...you can come and go as you please.
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Condoms help but they don't protect against all STD's (you can still get herpes and HPV).
Well, no offense, but duh. But chances are most people has been exposed, especially us older people that were active before the HPV vaccine came around and those are both liveable conditions. Certainly the fear of them aren't going to make people stop having sex.
Each to their own, I guess. What fear I have mainly concerns one of my kids running afoul of someone who doesn't think herpes is a big deal because it's a "liveable condition".
But we digress. Perhaps we should say that the minimum a man should wait would be the time required for the STD tests to come back? I believe that's three months for some tests.
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Well, it isn't a big deal to me. It's actually interesting how many people have it and have no idea. It's a fairly significant percentage that test positive for one of the two HSVs. And honestly, most standard STD screens don't scan for it. It has to be a blood test, and not all drs / clinics do it. I have more than a few friends with it and it doesn't slow their love/dating lives down at all.
But the turn around on these tests is much faster now that 5 or 10 years ago. I get everything back within a week and many of the STDs have (slightly less reliable) quick screen versions.
What? Get tested regularly. Practice safe sex. Be honest with potential partners.
Are you going to live in fear? Or live?
The younger generation is fortunate that the HPV vaccine was developed. I understand it is now standard for young men and women. That's great.
They can't test men for HPV...so you can have it and spread it very easily.
As for Herpes...don't have it and don't want it!
If I were single I'd just self-satisfy until I found someone on the same page as I am with regard to exclusivity and sex.
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sorry.
