Men, what is the longest maximum period of time that you will wait to have sex? (marriage, girl)
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For me and my SO, it was about 3 months and it was after we'd established that neither one of us was seeing anyone else, nor having sex with anyone else. Once I'm into someone, I have zero desire to date anyone else, much less have sex with anyone else and he felt the same way. I had another date semi-scheduled with someone else, but canceled after our first date. He had a date with another woman a few days after our first date but didn't pursue that any further.
So, we weren't 'officially' in a relationship, but we had both agreed that we weren't interested in seeing someone else if that makes sense. I actually asked him this question a few weeks into dating and he said 'for the right woman it would be worth waiting'
Exclusivity is agreed upon right before having sex, typically. I'm a trustworthy guy, so I don't just say I'll be exclusive just to have sex. It always works well to agree to it ahead of time. I know within a few weeks if I'm willing to be exclusive, so there's no issue. I would wait up to a couple of months, but I also don't want to waste time because I'm much older, and interested in marriage. Why wait 6 months and then find out there's no compatibility? No thanks.
If we're are exclusively dating I'd probably wait just a couple of months...... Sorry... I'm a gentleman and all but I don't buy into the "only have sex if you're married" idea.
Hey, thanks to those of you who answered my question. I really though men wouldn't be cool with a woman they are having sex with having sex with other men. Guess I was wrong. Maybe I am just adding my own personal bias to things because frankly, if I've gotten to the point with a man where I am intimate enough and trust him enough to have sex with him, I am not really thinking (or am interested in) other men at all.
Thats because you made a very situational question. If they are having sex with other women, of course she should be able to do the same. Anything different would be a double standard.
I don't quiet understand why some men believe that the conservative woman who aren't into casual sex have to be Christians all the time. I feel sex should only be in a relationship but I'm an atheist.
The only difference is I don't go for what bibles nor what churches have to say. It's rather my own feeling towards sex and intimacy.
I am a recovering Christian, relative metaphysical atheist. I have had casual sex (intercourse) on a number of occasions, but came to realize I do not enjoy it. Intimacy (read: intimacy, not "sex") is very, very important to me, and the best intimacy, experiences, I've ever had were with men I had a connection with. I've had good "sex" with some others, but that was just sex. And good sex is still just meh to me. I prefer a deep level of intimacy, and for me that is only experienced with partners where there is a true connection.
It is the same way with my beau. He does not engage in casual sex. He dislikes it greatly. Intimacy is incredibly important to him, which he can only experience in relationships or with those he develops a connection with.
Most of the responses here are disappointing. I'm not interested in casual sex, and I'm not going to have sex until I know the relationship is going somewhere long term. But then again, any guy who dumps me because I won't have sex by the 5th date or whatever arbitrary convention he's come up with is clearly not a *quality* man that I'd want to be involved with.
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...... Sorry... I'm a gentleman and all but I don't buy into the "only have sex if you're married" idea.
