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In regards to #1, even when we were dating, and we 'went to bed' to fool around, I STILL got back up and watched TV or whatever, I didn't go to sleep.. I had to "UNWIND". So to me those habits are flawed! Again, do what works for BOTH of you, not what something online tells you to do. I refuse to feel like a kid being told 'its time for bed..' I thought I was done with that when I was 12?
Im a wife going through this. I find it confusing that no one mentioned tge fact that she works a 9-5 which leaves him home alone all day. But then when its time to go to bed, he needs me time to work. Maybe i missed what was going on during the day..... hope it wotks out.
I know this is an old post but I think a common issue that surfaces later in a relationship when the high wears off and the early to bed person just can't make themselves stay up any more!
That said...I'll bet the OP was able to get to bed earlier when he thought there was some love coming to him! So why not lay down and snuggle for maybe 30 min. or however long before she falls asleep and then do whatever project a little later? He'll likely get some benefits if he plays his cards right...guys are really dense sometimes.
I know this is an old post but I think a common issue that surfaces later in a relationship when the high wears off and the early to bed person just can't make themselves stay up any more!.
It's funny, because I was just thinking the opposite...how, over the years, we've met more in the middle...he's gotten accustomed to pushing his clock back, and I've adjusted to become better with lying down a bit earlier.
Having kids is alsone a game changer, because newborns are all hands on deck, and don't care one bit about your delicate internal clock. All that's out the window for the better part off a year with each one.
I have a wonderful hardworking boyfriend and we have been living together for 9 months. When he first moved in with me, he would go to bed with me at least 3 to 4 times a week. But slowly, ut has gotten less and less. He is not playing video games but working on projects till 3 or 4 in the morning. We have been arguing about it since it started. I told hi. That i value going to bed together and it is important for me to have that closeness in a relationship. He promises to compromise and go to bed sometimes but that usually is once a week. He has so many good qualities, but I cant stand going to bed alone at night. I hate to break up with him over this, but i know ow it will not change and i have tried staying up with him but i end up getting mad. I have talked till i am blue in the face and dont know what else to do but let him go i love him, but this is driving me crazy.
I am the night owl and I used to go to bed with my ex until he fell asleep and then get up and do what I wanted to do. It's not that hard. In turn, sometimes I would need him after he fell asleep. He'd wake up long enough to pull me to him and hold me, so that I could also fall asleep with him. Compromise! Adjust to one another!
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