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Meh, not really. All the states are doing is extending the same rights to gay couples as they do to hetero couples. It's still about a couple, whereas polygamy is not.
In my opinion it's about free will amongst conscenting adults, whether it's Gay marriage or polygamy. It's about what our society as a whole is willing to accept. If you as an individual want to dictate what conscenting adults do you because you are not comfortable with it, you can join the side opposing Gay marriage. The point may be moot in a few years considering the lack of interest marriage.
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Originally Posted by Lilac110
Rape has nothing to do with reproduction, passion, loss of control, or any of that. Indeed, it has nothing to do with sex.
Rape has to do with violence, control, and domination. It is a dehumanizing act meant to relegate the victim to the status of thing. It is about making the rapist feel powerful because he cannot in any other way but through brutality. It is not impulsive: It is a deliberate, methodical act of violence conducted by a psychopath who is incapable of empathy.
"It is a dehumanizing act meant to relegate the victim to the status of thing. It is about making the rapist feel powerful because he cannot in any other way but through brutality"
Sounds like the perpetuator is more like a rabid animal that needs to be put down.
Meh, not really. All the states are doing is extending the same rights to gay couples as they do to hetero couples. It's still about a couple, whereas polygamy is not.
Rape has nothing to do with reproduction, passion, loss of control, or any of that. Indeed, it has nothing to do with sex. Sex is just the tool the perp uses to commit the assault.
Rape has to do with violence, control, and domination. It is a dehumanizing act meant to relegate the victim to the status of thing. It is about making the rapist feel powerful because he cannot in any other way but through brutality. It is not impulsive: It is a deliberate, methodical act of violence conducted by a psychopath who is incapable of empathy.
Some males actually are sexual aroused and rape for gratification purposes. I know universities don't like that, but it is true. Note I said males and not men.. We see it in the animal Kingdom often. Go to YouTube and type Chimp Rapes Frog for an example.
"It is a dehumanizing act meant to relegate the victim to the status of thing. It is about making the rapist feel powerful because he cannot in any other way but through brutality"
Sounds like the perpetuator is more like a rabid animal that needs to be put down.
Serial rapists can be like that. Some people feel that way about pedophiles. Why, what were you thinking, a slap on the wrist, some therapy, and they're good to go? Dudes who are so far gone they have no qualms about trashing people's lives as a way of life usually can't be rehabilitated. I'm not saying they should be put down (your words, not mine), but they're serious business, make no mistake. They're sick cookies, and tough ones, too.
I remember when HBO's "Big Love" first aired and I watched excitedly thinking plural marriages sounded like a really cool idea. I was thinking of all the upside; multiple women to sleep with (better odds that they'd be in the mood on their scheduled nights), different conversations, greater odds of home-cooked meals, etc. Then I watched the first episode and halfway through I turned it off, called my wife on the phone (I was traveling on business at the time), and told her how happy I was that she was my one and only.
Plural marriage is exhausting. It wasn't multiple chances of excitement and romance, it was all of the complexities of marriage multiplied by three. Each wanted their husbands attention, energy and patience and because they had him for only one night at a time, expected that he would always be one hundred percent locked in for them.... every single night. And because they were all aged roughly ten years apart the husband was dealing with things relevant to the wives ages (the twenty year old wanted children and excitement, the thirty year old wanted to material possessions and a bigger, better house and the forty year old wanted to settle down a bit more and try and keep everything working right). It was like time traveling for the guy, but in an ugly, complicated way.
I had never been so happy to go home to my traditional home and marriage.
No. To some extent i think it's more of a blend of the hook-up and serial monogamy cultures, these days.
I think the preoccupation with cheating on this board is a reflection of the attitudes and experiences of members who fan the flames of fear, reflecting their own, not so pleasant, experiences with cheating spouses.
I remember when HBO's "Big Love" first aired and I watched excitedly thinking plural marriages sounded like a really cool idea. I was thinking of all the upside; multiple women to sleep with (better odds that they'd be in the mood on their scheduled nights), different conversations, greater odds of home-cooked meals, etc.
Most dudes couldn't keep going 7 nights per week (ok, we'll give him Sunday off, lol!) for 20 or 30 years, though. Then what happens when he slows down? Or what if the youngest wife wants more of him (and he decides that's ok), and fights start? It's a lifetime migraine waiting to happen.
In my opinion it's about free will amongst conscenting adults, whether it's Gay marriage or polygamy. It's about what our society as a whole is willing to accept. If you as an individual want to dictate what conscenting adults do you because you are not comfortable with it, you can join the side opposing Gay marriage. The point may be moot in a few years considering the lack of interest marriage.
"It is a dehumanizing act meant to relegate the victim to the status of thing. It is about making the rapist feel powerful because he cannot in any other way but through brutality"
Sounds like the perpetuator is more like a rabid animal that needs to be put down.
I think the first step with any criminal should be to take his weapon away.
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