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Don't be so naive. You can't just be friends with a man whom you admit you are attracted to who is doing the " poor me" act with his cheating wife. He's being manipulative and you're being gullible. The affair is none of your business and he has no right to be sharing his marriage details with another woman.
Don't be so naive. You can't just be friends with a man whom you admit you are attracted to who is doing the " poor me" act with his cheating wife. He's being manipulative and you're being gullible. The affair is none of your business and he has no right to be sharing his marriage details with another woman.
One of the reasons I got attracted and thought it is safe to be friends with him is I think he is a man of character/good values. He always spoke well of his wife and he never flirted with me. We just enjoy talking to each other. I was the only person he shared the affair with since I do not know his wife. He does not want to ruin the image of his wife to friends and family. I really believe he is not capable of having a sexual affair because he seems to be still very in love with his wife. He said he wants to fix his marriage and I am amazed with his self control on not confronting his wife days after knowing the details of the affair.
I am very confused too. I admit that I am attracted to him but I will not let it go beyond attraction. I also believe that the attraction is one way since he doesn't appear to be attracted to any other woman than his wife (in spite of the affair) I'm thinking if we can still be friends given the circumstances
Well, if I were you I would stay out of it. She was having a physical affair, you two were having an emotional affair. It's debatable whether those things are equal but if you really want to help him and yourself you will keep your distance.
One of the reasons I got attracted and thought it is safe to be friends with him is I think he is a man of character/good values. He always spoke well of his wife and he never flirted with me. We just enjoy talking to each other. I was the only person he shared the affair with since I do not know his wife. He does not want to ruin the image of his wife to friends and family. I really believe he is not capable of having a sexual affair because he seems to be still very in love with his wife. He said he wants to fix his marriage and I am amazed with his self control on not confronting his wife days after knowing the details of the affair.
As I said, you're naive and gullible. Men of good character don't drag other women into their marital mess for no reason. He shares things because he's getting off on the female attention you're lavishing on him. He may or may not hit on you but it's inappropriate for him to be sharing so much. Tell him to get a marriage therapist, that will be more beneficial to him and his wife...don't forget he's married.
I don't understand myself if it's the attraction or guilt of abandoning someone in crisis. I am certain that I do not want a relationship with him even if he were single or separate from his wife because I can't deal with all the complications.
Is it really an emotional affair when clearly he is not interested or attracted to me in a romantic way? I truly feel this, in spite of his wife's affair he still loves her. Today he said his wife allowed him to hug her in bed (because in the past few weeks she does not even want to be touched) and he felt like crying then. I don't think that is a man mad from an affair, it seems like his wife could do no wrong. He even said that maybe when his wife has another affair he wishes to be numb. That's unconditional love I guess
I don't understand myself if it's the attraction or guilt of abandoning someone in crisis. I am certain that I do not want a relationship with him even if he were single or separate from his wife because I can't deal with all the complications.
Is it really an emotional affair when clearly he is not interested or attracted to me in a romantic way? I truly feel this, in spite of his wife's affair he still loves her. Today he said his wife allowed him to hug her in bed (because in the past few weeks she does not even want to be touched) and he felt like crying then. I don't think that is a man mad from an affair, it seems like his wife could do no wrong. He even said that maybe when his wife has another affair he wishes to be numb. That's unconditional love I guess
No, that is just a man who doesn't realize he has options and has become co-dependent. There is no such thing as unconditional love. There is loyalty though which I think some people confuse with unconditional acts.
As I said, you're naive and gullible. Men of good character don't drag other women into their marital mess for no reason. He shares things because he's getting off on the female attention you're lavishing on him. He may or may not hit on you but it's inappropriate for him to be sharing so much. Tell him to get a marriage therapist, that will be more beneficial to him and his wife...don't forget he's married.
This is the reason why I am continuing my friendship with him because he never hit on me so I feel safe that it's platonic. He says we are not doing anything wrong since we are not flirting or intimate.
So does this mean I am being used for an ego boost???
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