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When a womanizer or "player" walks into a room, women aren't attracted to him because he's a player. They don't even know him. However, if they do go out with him and realize it.. they'll most likely dump him.
I don't understand how this is even a question or how you find this worth of discussion.
So, why would we care what you have to say about it? Or anyone else?
The only thing a 36 year old virgin can possibly add to the conversation is whining, blaming other people for their shortcomings and being negative about women.
In other words, they bring 0 to the table in terms of conversation.. making other people uninterested.
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The only thing a 36 year old virgin can possibly add to the conversation is whining, blaming other people for their shortcomings and being negative about women.
Well, I haven't done any of that. I feel quite positive toward women.
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In other words, they bring 0 to the table in terms of conversation.. making other people uninterested.
I see, and what do you bring to the table in terms of conversation?
It's funny how life works. One of my good buddies I've been hanging with for a couple of years is a player. He can charm a woman, manipulate her, and basically talk her into doing things she wouldn't normally do. I'm no homo, but he's good looking, muscular, drives a bins, has a good-paying job as an RN, and dresses with swag. TBH, I used to be kind of jealous of his pull he had with the ladies. Needless to say, I was quite frustrated the more I tried to emulate his behavior.
I found out that I started being happiest when I stopped focusing on what he had so much and focused on what I had. Forgive me if this comes off as bragging, but I'm just as good-looking, dress well, and I'm pretty in shape/muscular as this "player". I have an attractive girlfriend and while I may not be as skillfull in manipulating women, I'm pretty damn satisfied with my level of conversation with them. Nobody has it perfect, even if things appear all good on the outside, you never know what's going on with someone on the inside. My friend has said several times that he's ready for a stable girl. He probably couldn't maintain a stable relationship if he wanted to, while it's pretty easy for me to be stable with a woman while I focus on other things in life.
When I started focusing on the things I was and not the things I wasn't, I've literally had several women (young, attractive women) throw themselves at me, even had a few opportunities for sex. Of course, since I'm in a relationship, I don't indulge. But being in a relationship is probably what is helping me appear less needy, thus more confident and attractive to other women. My point is, I'm not focusing so much on trying to be a player and I've been getting the attention that I think only the "alpha" guys get. I'm focusing on my health/fitness, and advancing my own career (currently training for the firefighter/EMT).
I think it seems women are attracted to womanizers because they appear to have themselves together to where they don't need them. That's where I am in my life, I'm feeling like I'm getting my validation from life and not from women. That makes me an alpha male in my book.
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