Do most women find it attractive when a man is somewhat controlling? (boyfriend, girlfriend)

[Virtual Insanity]

Simple question.

By controlling, I don't mean abusive or anything sick like that.

But say you were planning to hang out at a bar with four male coworkers after work and your boyfriend told you no way. Do you find that attractive? Is it considered assertive in a good way? Or do you look at it as a lack of trust or low confidence on his part?

I've been told by some women that they find it cute when their boyfriend gets jealous or acts protective. Where is the line drawn?

And furthermore, between these two choices, do you like it more when a man is controlling or when you are in control?

I ask because a guy I know once got dumped for being OK with his girlfriend hanging out with a former fwb. She thought he was a wimp more than she cared for him being trusting. She wasn't happy that he didn't put up an effort to stop it and took it as a sign of weakness.

[Lilac110]

No. I would not find it remotely attractive if a man thought he could tell me where to go and with whom. In fact, I'd tell him to jump off a cliff. It's a sign of insecurity, and it is unbecoming.

[Idon'tdateyou]

Nope I wouldn't like that.

[Annie53]

Originally Posted by Lilac110

No. I would not find it remotely attractive if a man thought he could tell me where to go and with whom. In fact, I'd tell him to jump off a cliff. It's a sign of insecurity, and it is unbecoming.

THIS ^^^^

I couldn't have said it better.

[Eazine]

Nope, that's a deal breaker.

[leftcoastie]

There's no such thing as "most women".

[WildOnions]

Nope.

It's a massive turn-off.

[stoneclaw]

I'm prepared to get jumped by the women on here BUTTT...

Women are some strange creatures. I've found they often say that they don't like a type of guy, but they end up being attracted to the guys they say they hate.

For example, way back in my inexperienced days, I remember trying to get with this girl thinking that the nice, innocent guy routine was the way to go. This girl was always saying that she liked the nicer guys and hated jocks and cocky guys, often using this guy named Tommie as an example. I spent 2 months trying to get with her watching everything I said and trying not to offend her. Long story short, we attended a party and Tommie flirted with her a little bit and needless to say, she ended up leaving with him that night. I don't know if they slept together but I'm sure they did, if not, I'm sure they did some heavy making out.

Women don't want an overly controlling guy but they do want a guy who's not afraid to take charge and tell her what he wants, and this is coming from a number of women who've told me this AND those that have tried to test me themselves. Women are smarter than men and they sometimes will play us like chess pieces. Alot of times, they'll say they want to do something that they know we're opposed to just to get a rise out of us. Alot of time, it's a test to see how far she can go. If she knows that she can push those limits, she will ultimately lose respect and interest.

[cosmic_girl]

A man that is "in control" is attractive. But I don't like controlling men.

[Virtual Insanity]

Originally Posted by cosmic_girl

A man that is "in control" is attractive. But I don't like controlling men.

Define in control.