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No. I would not find it remotely attractive if a man thought he could tell me where to go and with whom. In fact, I'd tell him to jump off a cliff. It's a sign of insecurity, and it is unbecoming.
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That would happen exactly once and as soon as those words came out of his mouth he would be an EX boyfriend.
No one tells me who I can have a few beers with, I control myself and no one else.
As far as your friend being dumped, he should consider himself lucky for getting tossed to the side of the road by a wing nut without threads.
She didn't want a boyfriend, she wanted a parental substitute to tell her what to do.
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No. Not only is it unattractive it has the potential to deteriorate into being dangerous.
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No. Makes him sound like my boss or master rather than a lover.
Yes to all of the above.
For 18 years, I lived with a man who told me what to do and when to do it. That reminds me, I need to buy him a Father's Day gift.
But say you were planning to hang out at a bar with four male coworkers after work and your boyfriend told you no way.
Am going to go against the general tone of most replies in this thread and say that I am with the boyfriend in this situation. He is not being controlling or insecure, he is being assertive and protective, and yes, a bit jealous, perhaps with good reason. There might be a red flag fluttering. There have been several threads on the "Just friends" topic, with hundreds of posts, so no need to repeat a lot, but myself and many others feel that it is playing with fire. Why does she prefer to be with four men she sees all day rather than with her boyfriend? Is there one of the men that she has romantic feelings for? After a few drinks inhibitions loosen, and then?? Men are possessive of women they care for, and defend them from other men. This has been their nature forever, and is not going to change.
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Am going to go against the general tone of most replies in this thread and say that I am with the boyfriend in this situation. He is not being controlling or insecure, he is being assertive and protective, and yes, a bit jealous, perhaps with good reason. There might be a red flag fluttering. There have been several threads on the "Just friends" topic, with hundreds of posts, so no need to repeat a lot, but myself and many others feel that is is playing with fire. Why does she prefer to be with four men she sees all day rather than with her boyfriend? Is there one of the men that she has romantic feelings for? After a few drinks inhibitions loosen, and then?? Men are possessive of women they care for, and defend them from other men. This has been their nature forever, and is not going to change.
Oh no. I don't need to be protected from other men, and if my husband thought he had to active doing that he would divorce me. It's not that I'm not flirted with and asked out by guys, but it's MY job to keep them off.
My husband would never tell me NOT to go do something. If he told me something made him uncomfortable I would respect that and not do it. He's a reasonable man and I respect him.
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Am going to go against the general tone of most replies in this thread and say that I am with the boyfriend in this situation. He is not being controlling or insecure, he is being assertive and protective, and yes, a bit jealous, perhaps with good reason. There might be a red flag fluttering. There have been several threads on the "Just friends" topic, with hundreds of posts, so no need to repeat a lot, but myself and many others feel that it is playing with fire. Why does she prefer to be with four men she sees all day rather than with her boyfriend? Is there one of the men that she has romantic feelings for? After a few drinks inhibitions loosen, and then?? Men are possessive of women they care for, and defend them from other men. This has been their nature forever, and is not going to change.
Here is a plausible scenario: What if she works with these four men and the group completed a project at work and went out to celebrate? Are you really going to tell your girlfriend she can't celebrate with her co-workers? Is your insecurity such that you are willing she is the only one NOT celebrating?
Don't get me wrong, there are scenarios I'd frown on if I knew my wife were wanting to do. Thankfully I don't have to deal with them because my wife doesn't put herself in such situations. Also, the rule is mutual. I just don't hang out with girls any more. All the friends I have who are women are friends of my wife. A little common sense and mutual respect can really go a long way.
Here is a plausible scenario: What if she works with these four men and the group completed a project at work and went out to celebrate? Are you really going to tell your girlfriend she can't celebrate with her co-workers? Is your insecurity such that you are willing she is the only one NOT celebrating?
Don't get me wrong, there are scenarios I'd frown on if I knew my wife were wanting to do. Thankfully I don't have to deal with them because my wife doesn't put herself in such situations. Also, the rule is mutual. I just don't hang out with girls any more. All the friends I have who are women are friends of my wife. A little common sense and mutual respect can really go a long way.
I hang out with my male coworkers on occasion after work (i work with 100 guys and 4 older women). I don't let anybody tell me I can't do that.
Bf could join and we all have fun - I have nothing to hide. But if he just shows up to make sure I am not cheating, we have an issue.
I won't let my bf pressure me into starting to going to babyshowers and book clubs like other women - I like cars and bikes and if there is mostly guys at these events, oh well. See it from the good side - I will listen to your car and bike talk and enjoy it!
Can't relate. My husband won't even ask me not to leave him when I left him twice in our marriage, LOL. He always say 'you do whatever you want'.
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