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Not a 50s thing. But if you treat sex like a handshake, you cannot expect that it's going to automatically turn into a relationship. Not to mention that men do look at that when determining whether they want a relationship or not. Don't shoot the messenger, but it's the way the world seems to work.
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Originally Posted by SophieLL
this "hold out" thing, wasnt that for high school or the 1950s?
i didnt know adult people still "waited" to "give sex". If i go out with a man that does everything but try to have sex with me, i assume he is sexually tramautized, sucks in bed, or an adult virgin.
Not a 50s thing. But if you treat sex like a handshake, you cannot expect that it's going to automatically turn into a relationship. Not to mention that men do look at that when determining whether they want a relationship or not. Don't shoot the messenger, but it's the way the world seems to work.
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The thing is that sex for a lot of people clouds judgments and makes things less clear, murky at times. The reasons to hold off a bit doesn't come from some religious or puritanical point of view, just from a pragmatic approach.
It's a trade off. Good sexual chemistry can mask a lot of incompatibility and delay the inevitable, but it is often a fun fling.
That said, not knowing if there is sexual chemistry can make the relationship seem promising and full of potential, when in fact there is none. Holding off can delay the inevitable too.
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Your post is completely rude and I'd say that the "bore" guy dodged a bullet..... You sound more like a 14 yr old boy sitting in a basement trying to invoke crap out of people...
Most mature adult women have a little more respect for people than to say the bolded part.
Not to mention your post makes you sound cheap too.... just to let you know.....
Chow, I completely agree but the OP is from South America. I'm not saying ALL South Americans think this way, but I do know that sex is very candid and open down there. It's not a big deal to them. Have you ever seen what Mardi Gras is like down there or the beaches? It's a completely different outlook and lifestyle than North America.
Sophie, looks like that guy was actually wanting to date you and maybe he wasn't into casual sex or having sex within the first 5 minutes. As for your current guy, you should ask him where you stand.
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Chow, I completely agree but the OP is from South America. I'm not saying ALL South Americans think this way, but I do know that sex is very candid and open down there. It's not a big deal to them. Have you ever seen what Mardi Gras is like down there or the beaches? It's a completely different outlook and lifestyle than North America.
Very true. It's not a big deal in much of the world. Seriously, we're pretty much prudes in the U.S.
Very true. It's not a big deal in much of the world. Seriously, we're pretty much prudes in the U.S.
I don't know if we're prudes but most people in the U.S. don't believe in giving it up so quickly lol...we just look at sex differently--and I think that's the average people. Fuggetabout the churchies
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I don't know if we're prudes but most people in the U.S. don't believe in giving it up so quickly lol...we just look at sex differently--and I think that's the average people. Fuggetabout the churchies
Well, prude covers it for me. Just the phrasing "giving it up" is just so odd to me. What am I giving up? I'm not diminished in any way. It's just the sharing of a, hopefully mutually enjoyable, experience. Giving up seems like something is lost to the other party, as opposed to both gained.
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