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No I'm speaking as if men often need more than good sex as a reason to enter a relationship. Sorry sweetheart but what you have in between your legs is not anymore special than the other million of women that have the same thing. Sleeping with a man early on or later will ultimately have some bearing on whether he pursues a relationship with you, but the majority of the time it boils down to them having a reason or reasons to want to commit to you. For the average man it doesn't happen overnight. He wants to get to know you. See where your head is at. Determine whether your a keeper. But if your making it that easy for him this early it essentially get all The benefits of what it would be like to have you as his gf without having to make you his gf, then why would he want to change the status quo? Im not saying that he won't make his gf, that he doesnt want a gf, or that you screwed it up. I'm only saying that it's too early to tell, it's only been two weeks and since that is the case, why are you doing so much so soon? Expecting more than what is time appropriate? Being in the grey zone at two weeks is not odd at all, but rushing in to something without discussing what the intentions are is not a good idea. You end up in this situation... I wish you the best of luck.
Thank you so much!
I guess you are right that being in the grey zone after 6 dates/2 weeks is normal, but the kind of relationship we have seems to close for 2 weeks, and sometimes i find myself thinking if i can/cant say this or that.
Example:
he stay over at my house yesterday, but left early today cause i ve had things to do early. Later at night he texted me asking me how i was, etc, and he told me he was out with his friends. I wanted to playfully answer something like "behave" but i didnt, i just said "hope you have a good time, im going to sleep now, kisses".
Doesn't matter what we say, this is only a question he can answer. Right now you don't know if he is seeing and/or sleeping with a bunch of other women.
It's a simple question to ask if you two are exclusive.
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Doesn't matter what we say, this is only a question he can answer. Right now you don't know if he is seeing and/or sleeping with a bunch of other women.
It's a simple question to ask if you two are exclusive.
I have never been in this position to have to ask if we are exclusive, but i guess i should now.
i guess this thread woke up a lot of doubts i didnt know i had. Or deep down i knew.
I dont know if im comfortable about sleeping cuddling with a guy thats not my boyfriend. The sex is not the problem (im ok about having sex with a guy thats not my boyfriend), the hugs, kisses, sleep over, kiss in the morning, making eachother dinner, discussing intimate problems, are the things i have problems with. Those are boyfriend things. And if he is not i rather just have sex, i think.
I have never been in this position to have to ask if we are exclusive, but i guess i should now.
Do men tend to get scared by this question??
They are all different.
You have no idea if this guy was relationship oriented? No discussions about anything?
Guy could have no interest in a relationship or he could be looking for one.
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i guess this thread woke up a lot of doubts i didnt know i had. Or deep down i knew.
I dont know if im comfortable about sleeping cuddling with a guy thats not my boyfriend. The sex is not the problem (im ok about having sex with a guy thats not my boyfriend), the hugs, kisses, sleep over, kiss in the morning, making eachother dinner, discussing intimate problems, are the things i have problems with. Those are boyfriend things. And if he is not i rather just have sex, i think.
A little late for all that isn't it?
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i guess this thread woke up a lot of doubts i didnt know i had. Or deep down i knew.
I dont know if im comfortable about sleeping cuddling with a guy thats not my boyfriend. The sex is not the problem (im ok about having sex with a guy thats not my boyfriend), the hugs, kisses, sleep over, kiss in the morning, making eachother dinner, discussing intimate problems, are the things i have problems with. Those are boyfriend things. And if he is not i rather just have sex, i think.
Well, we've established that sex does not equal intimacy for you.
I'm just trying to figure out what the heck needs to change for you to be happy. He's already doing all the things a BF would do, except say the words, "Will you be my GF?"
You have no idea if this guy was relationship oriented? No discussions about anything?
Guy could have no interest in a relationship or he could be looking for one.
No, he never told me anything about his love life.
I actually told him quite fast: he knows i was always in long serious relationships, he knows i ve only been single the last 5 months, while the rest of my adult life i was in relationships, he probably knows im a relationship oriented person.
All i know about him is that he has been single for the last 4 years!!! he barely wanted to mention his last gf, and seemed that wanted to change the subject when i insisted him this topic.
No, he never told me anything about his love life.
I actually told him quite fast: he knows i was always in long serious relationships, he knows i ve only been single the last 5 months, while the rest of my adult life i was in relationships, he probably knows im a relationship oriented person.
All i know about him is that he has been single for the last 4 years!!! he barely wanted to mention his last gf, and seemed that wanted to change the subject when i insisted him this topic.
what do u make of this?
Red flag.
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" but i didnt, i just said "hope you have a good time, im going to sleep now, kisses".
