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I totally disagree. Keeping your self interest in mind does require effort.
Well, sure you do. You've trained yourself to believe that. And when you "always" get what you want, it seems like a reward that reinforces that belief.
If you wonder 'what's in it for me' about every event you enter into, in life, I would think your life would be very unhappy. I feel it is your responsibility to make any relationship you get into a happy experience. If it's not happy, you end that relationship and start over. If you are making a financial investment, you might ponder that question, but entering into a relationship isn't like a financial investment...
One thing I've heard a lot over the last few days here is it is very selfish to approach a relationship with a "what's in it for me" mindset. I have to wonder, why should relationships be any different from any other aspect in life where before you do something, you ask what you are going to get out of it for the price of whatever the hell you are giving up?
I feel with that statement, I'm being asked to cast aside ANY self-interest for the sake of "love" for another person and being asked to put up and tolerate whatever for another person. I feel that I should have the right to feel in a functioning relationship, I'm getting something out of the effort I'm putting into it and I should have the right to leave a relationship if I'm not feeling I'm getting enough of a rewards for what I'm putting into it.
Thoughts?
It's a given that we enter into relationships so we can get something out of it. Sadly, the whole selfless movement has turned that into something evil. It seems we are supposed to exist solely for the benefit of others in order to be deemed good people. It's bullshizz.
Still, there is no need to make a point of it. Again, it's a given. So, to start the acquainting process with "What's in it for me?" is off-putting. Anyone with half a brain knows you have to benefit. My response would be that it depends on what you're bringing to the table. I have lots to offer. You may or may not get it all.
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