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Not a chance. And this is exactly the point people are making, being attracted to someone IS subjective.
I met my husband at a Christmas party at a friend's house. I didn't know anything about him, and I wasn't attracted or unattracted to him, he was just a guy at the party. As the night wore on, he had me hooked, because of the way he spoke, what he said, and having the same sense of humour. It wasn't instant fireworks when we looked at each other, but it was when we spoke.
From previous dating experience, the fireworks you feel toward someone's physical appearance can easily cloud you to the realities of who they are as a person. There was a thread today about a guy spying on a girl's FB because he doesn't trust her to tell the truth, but he'd still like to get with her because "she's hot". It gets old quickly when they have nothing else to offer but an appealing outer layer and are rotten to the core underneath.
From previous dating experience, the fireworks you feel toward someone's physical appearance can easily cloud you to the realities of who they are as a person. There was a thread today about a guy spying on a girl's FB because he doesn't trust her to tell the truth, but he'd still like to get with her because "she's hot". It gets old quickly when they have nothing else to offer but an appealing outer layer and are rotten to the core underneath.
And quite a few guys in that "does personality grow you?" thread said no, absolutely not. The only thing they need to know about a woman is that she's hot and personality doesn't matter. I have to wonder if these are the guys who end up getting totally burned in a relationship because she turns out to be a manipulative selfish nightmare. But hey, she looks good in a bikini, right?
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And quite a few guys in that "does personality grow you?" thread said no, absolutely not. The only thing they need to know about a woman is that she's hot and personality doesn't matter. I have to wonder if these are the guys who end up getting totally burned in a relationship because she turns out to be a manipulative selfish nightmare. But hey, she looks good in a bikini, right?
I wonder how many of those guys have been in LTRs, period.
obviously i don't make low tact sociopath statements in real life. I'm a social person with a lot of friends. i've had several unattractive girlfriends in my life. attractive women find me unattractive because I'm unattractive it's simple as that. I find it insulting for you all to claim otherwise or to claim I don't properly understand even my own situation.
Read lilac's post. Read it again. This is how almost all rational young attractive women think. As they get older women make compromises because their looks fade. You are delusional if you think otherwise. Same with very attractive men.
Why do you think attractive men and women are always the party animals who sleep around as kids? It's because they are privileged enough to have a chance to live that life. Duh.
You can't hide being a sociopath forever. I didn't call you that, you self identified as a sociopath. I think that makes you very unattractive even if you are a perfect physical specimen.
This is from the dictionary.com website: "
a person with a psychopathic personality whose behavior is antisocial, often criminal, and who lacks a sense of moral responsibility or social conscience."
And this:
"Someone whose social behavior is extremely abnormal. Sociopaths are interested only in their personal needs and desires, without concern for the effects of their behavior on others."
Women don't go out looking for the most ugliest, fastest, shortest guy but has a charismatic-fantastic personality. L OH L.
Bare minimum attraction is #1, from there comes everything else, ergo, looks is top of the list.
Forget it OP almost all women will not admit this. No use arguing. It is what it is.
yep... yet another rational user whose posts will be ignored. next try posting some anecdotal evidence and watch your personality be attacked by total strangers who wouldn't know you from Simon Nessman
yep... yet another rational user whose posts will be ignored. next try posting some anecdotal evidence and watch your personality be attacked by total strangers who wouldn't know you from Simon Nessman
I apologize if you felt insulted. I didn't realize self identified sociopaths cared what other posters thought.
I'm curious if you are seeing a therapist. Why do you identify as a sociopath?
I apologize if you felt insulted. I didn't realize self identified sociopaths cared what other posters thought.
lol
Actually, sociopaths do care to a certain extent what people around them think, because much of their energy goes towards charming them and manipulating them, using people to their own ends.
Women don't go out looking for the most ugliest, fastest, shortest guy but has a charismatic-fantastic personality. L OH L.
Bare minimum attraction is #1, from there comes everything else, ergo, looks is top of the list.
Forget it OP almost all women will not admit this. No use arguing. It is what it is.
I don't disagree, but the best looking guys are not always the most attractive. There has to be an "it" factor too. I personally find Justin Bieber gag worthy, but tons of 18 year old disagree with me.
It has to be " looks" you are attracted to, not just good looking.
Women are going crazy for Benedict cumberbatch, and I'm just....meh.
No woman will see a very unattractive guy and then become attracted to them.
An average guy on the other hand can accomplish this sometimes. The woman is thinking he's okay looking, but he's so (interesting, smart, funny, powerful etc...)
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