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Every human on the planet is attracted to who they are attracted to no matter what the reason and sometimes you just cannot pinpoint exactly what the attraction is because it is a combination of the entire person and there is no defining that to an exact definition.
When humans understand this completely all the stress and over analyzing about others and dating/relationships will ease quite a bit and people might actually get a date then have more than that one date and it might actually turn into a good long lasting relationship, flaws and all.
One date after a series of rejections wouldn't make me happy.
You are desicribing cold approaching people as if it's how everyone on the planet initiates finding partners or that only the select few "god tier" looking people find others.
The scale doesn't work this way. There are far more variables at play than basic 1 + 1 =
1. Looks pull you in, AND THEN LATER, personality matters.
2. An average/below average guy's looks won't pull you in, so you won't give him a chance to display his personality.
I'm not mad at women for this. I just wish they'd be honest.
Brutal "honesty" such as you claim to want would be considered ill-mannered behavior by some folks and they would therefore never engage in it.
The sooner you endeavor to understand that attraction is a complicated mixture of things that are different for every single one of us, the sooner you'll quit wasting time and energy
Brutal "honesty" such as you claim to want would be considered ill-mannered behavior by some folks and they would therefore never engage in it.
The sooner you endeavor to understand that attraction is a complicated mixture of things that are different for every single one of us, the sooner you'll quit wasting time and energy
I interpret your argument as "You don't understand women. You can never understand. The sooner you admit that you will never understand the sooner you will stop talking"
I'm sure I've misinterpreted. Could you please clarify?
You are desicribing cold approaching people as if it's how everyone on the planet initiates finding partners or that only the select few "god tier" looking people find others.
The scale doesn't work this way. There are far more variables at play than basic 1 + 1 =
True, and what I always suggest is to to pay attention to couples when you're out and about. You see all kinds of people paired up, not just model/athletes. Trying to break it down into some kind of formula is madness.
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True, and what I always suggest is to to pay attention to couples when you're out and about. You see all kinds of people paired up, not just model/athletes. Trying to break it down into some kind of formula is madness.
I really don't think people on this forum go out and look around. I see overweight people with thin people (both genders), some taller women with equal height or shorter men, people of difference races, etc etc all paired up together. I can't believe such things are restricted to the big cities I've lived in.
I interpret your argument as "You don't understand women. You can never understand. The sooner you admit that you will never understand the sooner you will stop talking"
I'm sure I've misinterpreted. Could you please clarify?
You clearly have.
My advice would be the same whether or not you were male or female.
The fact is, attraction is very subjective - VERY INDIVIDUAL to every person.
And as I previously stated, there are many factors involved in what makes someone "attractive" to someone else.
You are just spinning your wheels and wasting your time by claiming women "just need to be honest".
The reality is, WE ARE BEING HONEST with you, right here, right now
1. Looks pull you in, AND THEN LATER, personality matters.
2. An average/below average guy's looks won't pull you in, so you won't give him a chance to display his personality.
I'm not mad at women for this. I just wish they'd be honest.
This has been my experience and it explains why I failed. I can't change my looks so I could care less.
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