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I agree with the others here that have suggested a counselor. I am sure you can find free counseling in your area. The counseling is not to make you break up with your boyfriend, just someone to talk to.
Another suggestion I would make is pretend your good friend that you really care about and love just told you about her relationship with her boyfriend, and told you exactly the same things you have posted here. Ask yourself what your suggestion to her would be. Would you suggest she stay with a guy that treats her like that?
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upsadaisy.....isn't there anyone at your church you can talk to about this?
I could because i would like someone to talk to about it, like how I'm doing now. My preacher says I need to put it all in God's hands and I try so hard to. I pray every night about this situation and for my mom. I think I unload a lot on God and I know that I'm being tested in a whole bunch of ways. I feel guilty about the negative thoughts I have been thinking lately and I just want to have faith.
im saving up for us to get married but it wont be for a looong time because of the expenses. I'm getting extra hours at work but not enough to fund a wedding. It's been slow to get off the ground plus the main shopping places are in the city so it's hard to plan.
Nobody is perfect. But you need to jettison what weighs you down, upsadaisy. Sometimes it hurts, sometimes it leaves you on your own. But keeping it around is poison to you. People, users like this, will drain you, and before you know it, you won't be you anymore.
I did that. I'm alone. But I'm nobodies door mat anymore, either.
Wait. I just read the "I can't afford to dump someone because they're not perfect" a little differently than the first time.
She's saying literally, she can't afford to leave this guy. And she has nowhere to go. Because her mom's an alcoholic. So she can't move in with her mom. And working at McDonald's she doesn't make enough to support herself. She's stuck. So she has to pretend everything's ok, and it's just because her bf is a little moody, and her needs really aren't so important, and she'll be able to muddle through. It's really ok, guys, not a big deal.
it's honestly not a joke. We want to get married but I want a church wedding and something at the reception hall. we could just get a marriage license, he doesn't care either way but a wedding is important to me although we feel married anyway
I could because i would like someone to talk to about it, like how I'm doing now. My preacher says I need to put it all in God's hands and I try so hard to. I pray every night about this situation and for my mom. I think I unload a lot on God and I know that I'm being tested in a whole bunch of ways. I feel guilty about the negative thoughts I have been thinking lately and I just want to have faith.
I'm not exactly a man of faith, but God never gives you more than you can handle. And doesn't give you help until you need it.
Wait. I just read the "I can't afford to dump someone because they're not perfect" a little differently than the first time.
She's saying literally, she can't afford to leave this guy. And she has nowhere to go. Because her mom's an alcoholic. So she can't move in with her mom. And working at McDonald's she doesn't make enough to support herself. She's stuck. So she has to pretend everything's ok, and it's just because her bf is a little moody, and her needs really aren't so important, and she'll be able to muddle through. It's really ok, guys, not a big deal.
Im saving up for us to get married but it wont be for a looong time because of the expenses. I'm getting extra hours at work but not enough to fund a wedding. it's been slow to get off the ground plus the main shopping places are in the city so it's hard to plan.
You should be saving up to get out on your own. Why would you marry this guy? Has he even asked?
I feel guilty about the negative thoughts I have been thinking lately and I just want to have faith.
No! You're not supposed to ignore the voice inside that says, "Something's wrong with this picture!" You're supposed to tune into it, and let it guide you. God gave you that inner voice so you can save yourself from dangerous situations. God helps those who help themselves. You're writing yourself off, OP.
You're going to trust in yourself to make the right decision.
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No! You're not supposed to ignore the voice inside that says, "Something's wrong with this picture!" You're supposed to tune into it, and let it guide you. God gave you that inner voice so you could save yourself from dangerous situations.
Bingo.
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