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Well perhaps I should either break up, or tell her that I am not paying from now on, in which case I am not invited to any more functions, and we are still together though.
I think she is getting away with this because you havent bothered to learn anything about Chilean culture on your own. Google it.
You will see mistakes you have made, and untruths she has been using to manipulate you and your wallet.
She sounds more like a traditional Iggy Azalea character, than a traditional and customary Chilean to me.
Send her a plastic knife in a Farewell card, and move on to someone that deserves your attention.
I suspect our OP is a wallower type and just wants to keep sniveling about his issues.... most men when presented with information make decisions, move forward, and don't keep vacillating about it.
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Well perhaps I should either break up, or tell her that I am not paying from now on, in which case I am not invited to any more functions, and we are still together though.
If thats what you are willing to settle for, always looking over your shoulder for a scam doesnt sound like much of a relationship to me, but that's up to you.
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I suspect our OP is a wallower type and just wants to keep sniveling about his issues.... most men when presented with information make decisions, move forward, and don't keep vacillating about it.
Well perhaps I should either break up, or tell her that I am not paying from now on, in which case I am not invited to any more functions, and we are still together though.
You may still be together, but I bet she won't be happy. If you chose that route, you'll probably be back here in a month or two, complaining that she's resentful with you for your decision. But definitely you should try it, if you're not willing to take more radical action.
It seems like she's hitting you when you're down, though. You're unemployed and trying to get by on savings, and she holds that against you, and excludes you from social activities? With a "loved one" like that, who needs enemies?
I suspect our OP is a wallower type and just wants to keep sniveling about his issues.... most men when presented with information make decisions, move forward, and don't keep vacillating about it.
Well...
If the OP is like this and continues to complain in a whining or tearful way, then his replies will not be taken seriously... especially if he does not make a concrete decision about exactly what he wants to do about the entire situation and follows through with his intentions.
Well I fell in love with her before I found this out about her so it's hard to break up, since I love her.
Time for the two of you to take a break so you can figure out exactly what you want to do about the entire situation. While the two of you are taking a break, no contact with her.
Well I fell in love with her before I found this out about her so it's hard to break up, since I love her.
She's not the person you thought she was. When you fell in love with her, you didn't know she'd be callous and indifferent to you when the chips are down, instead of trying to help you any way she can. And you didn't know she'd lie to try to get what she wanted.
But, suit yourself. Just be aware that this is what you've chosen for your life. You can't complain to anyone if it gets worse over time or in marriage, because you're choosing this for yourself.
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