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Without hesitation, I'd respond with the following: That question is revealing and implies that you know the answer. The question you have to ask yourself is really "Are you happy with your body?" and if the answer is anything other than "Yes" you should make whatever changes you can to it without seeking outside validation.
But do you love how she looks, regardless whether she's fat?
We know when we're fat, we just want to know do you find us sexually attractive in that moment.
"Of course, but you're a large woman and I think you look stunning, always have. Why would you think you don't look amazing to me just because of your size?"
Otherwise, why are you with someone youre not physically attracted to?
OP, this entire question is a mine field, and my heart goes out to any guy who's challenged with giving an honest answer without offending/hurting a woman.
It's tough.
I've always learned that if I don't want to know the TRUTHFUL answer to a question, then I don't ask it.
Nevertheless, I honestly don't see any answer that you can give that wont cause some kind of hurt/pain/rejection/embarrassment/shame. I always advocate for being honest, but if your answer is "yes," you've more than likely got an unhappy female on your hands. If you say "no," and lie, and she truly is fat or looks fat, then you've got the same situation.
Maybe you can say, "I don't know. What do you think?" and shift the burden of the answer back to her?
Be honest but be tactful. If she is asking, then she is aware of certain healthy and aesthetic issues that come with being overweight. Don’t dance around and worry about hurt feelings. If she isn’t willing to make the effort after you’ve given an answer and only wants to hear want she wants, then she isn’t being honest with herself. Sitting on weight simply because one is lazy is unacceptable.
P.S. If someone is asking, then chances are they don’t have any pre-existing conditions that prevent them from losing weight. It is more of an aesthetic issue so don’t promote obesity especially when a person is capable of losing it.
Second P.S. - Be a man and take the lead. Take charge.
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