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I dated more than a few overweight women, and while none of them ever directly asked me if I thought they were fat, some of them asked why I was so interested in dating a fat woman. In a sometimes embarrassing series of questions, answers, trial and error I went from, "Because I just like fat chicks" (which led to her not feeling unique so much as me dating her because she was fat and it was her only quality) to a more polished explanation. Something like, "I'm physically attracted to you and that was enough to make me want to get to know you better to see if we had something and see where it went."
My wife, a few months after we had our first child, was still struggling to shed baby weight, a struggle that proved to last several years. At a work function she compared herself to some of the more lean, slender wives of my colleagues and later told me she felt sorry for me because I was the only one in attendance who had a fat wife. I told her I didn't have a fat wife or a skinny wife, I had the perfect wife. Was it enough to assure her? Not really, but that was a personal issue for her to work through herself with my support. And as I've indicated on other threads here, she has made an immense amount of progress with it.
You're so sweet!! Keep up your support, thats what us wives need most.
Last edited by Minntoaz; 01-26-2015 at 07:11 PM..
Reason: Granm
"Are you looking for some change?" "would you like to get healthy together?"...would never answer that loaded question, preferring to answer her question with my own....
It's a question that someone who is feeling insecure asks when she needs reassurance and support from a person she trusts. I will agree that it is a landmine that requires a great deal of tact, but I also think that it opens the door for deepening a relationship if approached with genuine love and concern.
It is an immature loaded question and it is wrong to attempt to delude yourself into a sense of self-worth based on emotionally coercing someone to lie.
The asker knows the answer.
At best, it is a test.
I don't deal with people who test me.
I grew up with the concept of being tactful. Meaning you can be honest without being hurtful. For example, the common question "Does this outfit make me look fat?" could be answered simply with "The outfit you wore yesterday looked nicer on you."
Depends on your relationship with the girl and how you say it. For eg. I sometimes tell my GF I love my motorbike more than her. In a joking way and she doesn't get too offended.
Definitely don't tell her she is fat. Say that she is a just a little short for her weight and if she got some new shoes with heels, she would feel better. Maybe this will confuse her and she won't ask you again.
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