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Maybe she hates babies, the undying attention, the cooing, the gift-buying, and all the rest of it.
Except that the OP wrote this in his subsequent post:
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She definitely wants kids...no doubt about it...and sooner than later because of a health condition she has. She loves them. Her best friend is having a baby shower next month and she's been so involved in trying to plan it.
I am absolutely certain it has to do with her not liking my brother's wife, but why must she be standoffish to the rest of my family..? She'll take a 3 hour road trip to visit the baby of a friend of a friend of a friend (exaggerating but the example is realistic) but I'm certain wouldn't take the 10 minute drive to my brother's house.
The OP also seems to be blatantly ignoring various things he quite vocally discussed in an earlier thread, including,
"She has also been insulted by them [family] behind her back numerous times so every time she's around (or we are), they put up a facade and pretend like everything is hunky dory."
"Brother and his wife get a new house in the summer. My Mom is furious because my GF doesn't have the time to see it...His wife has been nasty to my GF in the past though everyone looks at his wife as the second coming of Christ... My mom is complaining that my GF hasn't sent them a congratulatory note or any acknowledgement..."
"Overall, sounds like my family (mom in particular) is trying to make situations that cause conflict between my GF and I. It's destroying me emotionally."
And now he's playing the "I just don't get why she's so standoffish with my family!' card. For real, dude? It's a big mystery? Really?
Its not even a relations baby, its the baby of someone and a family that she has no bond with, isnt even friends with. It doesnt matter if she did go see the kid, something would be said badly about her one way or the other. Its a lose lose for her.
She's doing the right thing. If she wanted to see the kid, she would.
Which begs the question of why anybody would continue to carry on a multi-year relationship with somebody where there is such blatant hostility between the person and the family, and tone-deafness to the situation on the part of the person who is the common bond between the two entities.
OP, what have you done to shield your girlfriend from the hostility from your mother? It's not an enviable position to be in but you have to do your part to protect the one you love.
I feel bad for the OP, with a mother constantly doting over his brother's achievements. First his beautiful new house that her other son and his girlfriend were supposed to visit and praise, now the first grandbaby.
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