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She's been your GF for 3 years. You should be able to say "Sweetie, it seems to me you aren't very excited about the birth of little Hortensia. Why is that?".
^This.
Everyone can discuss what we think of her, of you, of your relationship, but it doesn't resolve or clarify anything.
So as of last week, I am uncle for the first time and parents are now grandparents! My brother and his wife's baby was just born. My mom has been sending pics all to her friends and family and everyone has responded with such congratulatory remarks. Even strangers offered congratulations when it got discussed in public. Everyone seems to be so happy...but not my GF.
We've been together for 3 years (live together) and while she has had some issues with my family, they have been nothing but nice to her in the past several months. But I am shocked she has not even asked me about the baby when I went to meet her for the first time. As far as I know, she has not offered any congratulations to my brother and my mom has sent everyone a few pics, her included, all would respond but her! My mom is furious about her lack of interest and thinks she's being selfish because of the past. my GF is known to love babies but because she doesn't like my brother's wife I wonder if that's the reason....
I don't even know how to address it, which is one reason why I'm resorting to an online forum...I don't even know how to broach, "lets go see the baby!" without expecting her to give a moody face. This is an innocent baby we're talking about. But frankly I find the whole issue hypocritical as I've gone her nephew's, niece's, friend of friend's baby events (none of these are blood related to her).
She has not flat out said no yet, but considering she hasn't asked me anything about the baby and hasn't responded to any picture emails, I have to no idea even how to broach the subject...
Sounds like the issue isn't about the baby but problems that lay between you and her and she's emotionally detaching slowly..
I agree. I don't have grandkids yet but I can imagine I would be way more excited about that than a random relative's new baby. I don't get too over the edge about babies/kids.
Same for me. Not to say some babies aren't cute. But I usually think that when the show on tv or something. I don't openly gush over babies, or care to see pix of kids. Don't hate the kids. Just not interested. As a joke in Friends where Phoebe and some strange women both tell Rachel it's annoying when parents put babies on the phone to talk lol
So I don't think there's a problem with the girlfriend. She just isn't interested in the child of a non relative and one she doesn't like on top of it. There's no obligation for her to gush like everyone else. And who knows, the ones gushing are probably just being nice in some cases.
The way that you completely dismiss your mom and family's behavior OP, I genuinely hope that this girlfriend can move on from you and find happiness and conflict free relationships elsewhere.
Seriously, what's your girlfriends' phone number? Because someone needs to call that girl up and talk some sense into her.
If I were her, I would've dumped you and your lunatic family a long time ago. Man up and tell your mother to back off -- you're a grown a** adult, act like it. Or move back in with mom, and tell the GF to find someone who has stopped letting mommy iron his underpants. She doesn't need to be excited over anything she isn't excited for. Absolutely ridiculous that you and your family feel like you're entitled to a monopoly over her emotions.
Seriously, what's your girlfriends' phone number? Because someone needs to call that girl up and talk some sense into her.
If I were her, I would've dumped you and your lunatic family a long time ago. Man up and tell your mother to back off -- you're a grown a** adult, act like it. Or move back in with mom, and tell the GF to find someone who has stopped letting mommy iron his underpants. She doesn't need to be excited over anything she isn't excited for. Absolutely ridiculous that you and your family feel like you're entitled to a monopoly over her emotions.
Seriously, what's your girlfriends' phone number? Because someone needs to call that girl up and talk some sense into her.
If I were her, I would've dumped you and your lunatic family a long time ago. Man up and tell your mother to back off -- you're a grown a** adult, act like it. Or move back in with mom, and tell the GF to find someone who has stopped letting mommy iron his underpants. She doesn't need to be excited over anything she isn't excited for. Absolutely ridiculous that you and your family feel like you're entitled to a monopoly over her emotions.
The girlfriend sounds like the jealous and possessive type. She wants you, all of you, every minute, every second. I went out with a few guys like this. People like this need to find someone else just like them, so they can go off and live in their little cave with one another.
So as of last week, I am uncle for the first time and parents are now grandparents! My brother and his wife's baby was just born. My mom has been sending pics all to her friends and family and everyone has responded with such congratulatory remarks. Even strangers offered congratulations when it got discussed in public. Everyone seems to be so happy...but not my GF.
We've been together for 3 years (live together) and while she has had some issues with my family, they have been nothing but nice to her in the past several months. But I am shocked she has not even asked me about the baby when I went to meet her for the first time. As far as I know, she has not offered any congratulations to my brother and my mom has sent everyone a few pics, her included, all would respond but her! My mom is furious about her lack of interest and thinks she's being selfish because of the past. my GF is known to love babies but because she doesn't like my brother's wife I wonder if that's the reason....
I don't even know how to address it, which is one reason why I'm resorting to an online forum...I don't even know how to broach, "lets go see the baby!" without expecting her to give a moody face. This is an innocent baby we're talking about. But frankly I find the whole issue hypocritical as I've gone her nephew's, niece's, friend of friend's baby events (none of these are blood related to her).
She has not flat out said no yet, but considering she hasn't asked me anything about the baby and hasn't responded to any picture emails, I have to no idea even how to broach the subject...
Looks like you are stuck in the middle of women who are passively feuding. Just remember, you can't change the way people act, you can only change the way you react towards them. Stop freaking out about things you can't control. You are not responsible for anyone's actions but your own.
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