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Like the OP, I too have given up dating. It is exhausting, tiresome, and not worth the effort and work. I live alone and sometimes my friends and family visit me. I have a dog and she's easier to be around lol. I've tried the whole dating scenario and now wish I never did. I see where she's coming from.
If you take sex out of the equation, I'd guess that a lot of men would prefer the company of their dogs over women.
I wish you the best Sweet. I know when I've given up dating, I do that, just not date period. For me the cliche "you'll find someone when you least suspect it" has never worked. I would just continue to have an active social life.
I commend the OP for being honest with herself. IMHO, I think there are lots of women and men like her. They really don't care about the other person. They may want the security of someone else. They may not like being alone all the time. They may want children. So they partner up with a person they really don't care about, but the partnership gets them the other things they want.
I commend the OP for not marrying some guy you really don't care about, just because its the thing to do.
I commend the OP for being honest with herself. IMHO, I think there are lots of women and men like her. They really don't care about the other person. They may want the security of someone else. They may not like being alone all the time. They may want children. So they partner up with a person they really don't care about, but the partnership gets them the other things they want.
I commend the OP for not marrying some guy you really don't care about, just because its the thing to do.
Oh, I'm not saying that at all. I would never be with someone who I didn't care about just so I wouldn't be alone. I cared about the person who I dated longest, we just weren't in love with each other.
After ten years of not so wedded bliss, I tried real hard to date. I think that was my problem.
Trying too hard.
After all of that compromise & sacrifice, it was difficult to just "flip the switch" or "get back on the horse."
My divorce was and is still painful, and I'm simply not ready to give myself up yet. While I have met some really nice ladies that I would normally "pursue" if circumstances were different, I'm just not getting that "spark."
You know, like pining for someone while daydreaming at work, maybe giving a gal a phone call just before bedtime, etc.
It was just a couple of weeks ago that I invited a very nice lady over for a home cooked meal (I'm pretty damned good in the kitchen), and it felt like a chore. I just wasn't into it. I actually preferred to sit pool side with a good cigar and a bucket of beer....and yes.....with my dog at my feet.
I s'pose there's a lot of divorced guys my age (51), that want someone to take care of them and their pee-pee too, but I'm not one of 'em.
I enjoy this quiet house and I'm not going to make any changes anytime soon.
Well it is impossible to have a connection with someone you don't know. That's for starters.
I think a distinction here has to be made between total strangers and familiar strangers. I agree that it is impossible to develop a connection with a total stranger but in the case of a familiar stranger (defined as a stranger one sees on a regular basis) it may be possible to become strongly attracted to them due to their mannerisms and demeanor.
Perhaps we all should just back off and let OP live in solitude with her cat. I mean, the stereotype exists for a reason.
Aye. No emotional connection with another human being except for parents? That's not "asexuality." That's sociopathy, and it comes from a lack of empathy. Good luck with that.
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