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I've mostly given up on finding love. Like 95%. The things in my life that I do love, that I've always loved, I have a hard time imagining that someone could come along and mean as much to me as these other things have.
I have heard people say that when someone is single, they should reduce their expectations and settle for less, so to speak. Somehow that doesn't work. Even people who are not overly attractive and popular themselves won't settle for someone unattractive to them just in order to be in a relationship.
Anyway, it is a bit sad to think that there are so many lonely people out there, and the only reason for that is probably that they just don't meet the right people. I believe there are lots of right people out there for each and every person. In the past people knew even fewer people than today, but I assume they often married someone they had known for a long time, maybe childhood, and it was more based on familiarity than on our modern idea of love.
And many modern city people always want to be so cool and hard to get, instead of simply embracing people and letting them know they are also available.
S___... it's like echoes of the dead age on here. No wonder I can't find any good advice.
What kind of advice are you looking for?
There are good examples of people having successful relationships I'm sure but on this forum the population generally is people looking (and probably frustrated people in the process) for a good relationship.
Not saying you can't get good advice here however.
I have heard people say that when someone is single, they should reduce their expectations and settle for less, so to speak. Somehow that doesn't work. Even people who are not overly attractive and popular themselves won't settle for someone unattractive to them just in order to be in a relationship.
Anyway, it is a bit sad to think that there are so many lonely people out there, and the only reason for that is probably that they just don't meet the right people. I believe there are lots of right people out there for each and every person. In the past people knew even fewer people than today, but I assume they often married someone they had known for a long time, maybe childhood, and it was more based on familiarity than on our modern idea of love.
It's crazy I used to believe that there was a person for each and every person, but what suks is when you start coming to the conclusion that is not the case. Maybe for some, but not all.
There are plenty of people that will be alone til the day the die. Why? God only knows.
It'd be nice to get that idealistic mindset back.. hope of finding the person made for you.
I have heard people say that when someone is single, they should reduce their expectations and settle for less, so to speak. Somehow that doesn't work. Even people who are not overly attractive and popular themselves won't settle for someone unattractive to them just in order to be in a relationship.
Anyway, it is a bit sad to think that there are so many lonely people out there, and the only reason for that is probably that they just don't meet the right people. I believe there are lots of right people out there for each and every person. In the past people knew even fewer people than today, but I assume they often married someone they had known for a long time, maybe childhood, and it was more based on familiarity than on our modern idea of love.
And many modern city people always want to be so cool and hard to get, instead of simply embracing people and letting them know they are also available.
A big problem to me is just the crazy amounts of competition nowadays. From smartphones with dating apps, online dating websites, social media sites, the Internet in general, etc.
It's no surprise to me that I always hear that dating was MUCH easier and simpler back in the old days.
It's crazy I used to believe that there was a person for each and every person, but what suks is when you start coming to the conclusion that is not the case. Maybe for some, but not all.
There are plenty of people that will be alone til the day the die. Why? God only knows.
Maybe it is like in nature where with many species those individuals for some reason considered unattractive stay single and never have offspring. Maybe there is also that kind of natural selection going on where nature tries to eradicate ugly, stupid, shy, and other unattractive individuals from the gene pool.
What I dislike today is that everyone seems to be in a hurry so that one always feels like one is stealing someone's time. So conversations remain shallow and short. Then there is careers, which make people move around a lot, often destroying relationships before they really started.
A big problem to me is just the crazy amounts of competition nowadays. From smartphones with dating apps, online dating websites, social media sites, the Internet in general, etc.
It's no surprise to me that I always hear that dating was MUCH easier and simpler back in the old days.
And earlier. Now we feel like we live forever, so we postpone everything. And by the time people start to realize their job is not what life is about and that they need to get serious, they are often 30 or 40 and all of a sudden in a hurry as their appeal is already fading away.
There are good examples of people having successful relationships I'm sure but on this forum the population generally is people looking (and probably frustrated people in the process) for a good relationship.
Not saying you can't get good advice here however.
It's just the world where God, family values, the forefathers, buying American, and other perspectives that only perpetuate with 55 year olds in the state of Kansas just don't apply to many people of my generation and after. While a number of sound relationship platforming concepts can be found in old world thought, it's not where it's derived for most modern, urban denizens. You might have the right ideas, but the background information is not the selling point in the context.
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