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Causally watching porn is not even close to the same thing as actually cheating, if a woman did this to me that would just be the end of it she could stay with her new guy she cheated with. Porn is a video file on a computer not anywhere close to having another guy in your woman. Women who think this are seriously diluted and I would be happy they are gone.
Now if its one of these sitatutions where the guy is watching porn to the point of neglect then I can see her getting her needs filled else where. But that could be caused by any number of issues working too much, playing too many video games etc etc. Basicly doing anything (even wholesome responsible things) that is to the detriment of meeting your partners sexual needs is going to cause issues.
If you are volunteering helping starving kids at a church until 11pm and are too tired for sex every night its going to likely be an issue.
Porn is the lazy, cowardly, cheating way to cheat.
It reflects a lack of creative and emotional intelligence if it is needed as a "warm-up" to have sex with one s own partner.
You are declaring that your partner has bored you to tears in and out of the bedroom.
Your marriage, as in the sexual part that distinguishes the two of you from you and your fishing buddies , is over.
No activity in life neglects the sexual needs of one, except , another sexual outlet by the other.
An unselfish use of one s time, as opposed to the selfish use of ones time, hardly offends another.
Sexual gratification that excludes your partner is cheating...unless otherwise agreed upon ahead of time.
So, what drives someone to "cheat"?
Laziness and a lack of creative and emotional intelligence = selfishness.
Humans, both male and female, are not naturally monogamous.
People cheat for many reasons. It usually comes down to boredom of sex with the same person
Don’t take my word for it:
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In biology and psychology, the Coolidge effect is a phenomenon seen in animal species whereby males (and to a lesser extent females) exhibit renewed sexual interest if introduced to new receptive sexual partners, even after cessation of sex with prior but still available sexual partners. This effect can be attributed to an increase in sexual responsiveness, and a decrease in the refractory period. The evolutionary benefit to this phenomenon is that a male can fertilize multiple females. The male may be reinvigorated repeatedly for successful insemination of multiple females.
Porn is the lazy, cowardly, cheating way to cheat.
It reflects a lack of creative and emotional intelligence if it is needed as a "warm-up" to have sex with one s own partner.
You are declaring that your partner has bored you to tears in and out of the bedroom.
Your marriage, as in the sexual part that distinguishes the two of you from you and your fishing buddies , is over.
No activity in life neglects the sexual needs of one, except , another sexual outlet by the other.
An unselfish use of one s time, as opposed to the selfish use of ones time, hardly offends another.
Sexual gratification that excludes your partner is cheating...unless otherwise agreed upon ahead of time.
So, what drives someone to "cheat"?
Laziness and a lack of creative and emotional intelligence = selfishness.
The reason people cheat is because our purpose as human beings is to reproduce more human beings to ensure the survival of the species. Cheating is inevitable because monogamy is unnatural.
Most people will dismiss this explanation because, quite frankly, we're all born narcissists. But through socialization with other children, we learn that the world doesn't revolve around us.
Women especially have been socialized to believe in the concept of romantic love - that Prince Charming is out there waiting to ride in on his white horse and sweep her off her feet.
CD member Skydive Outlaw wrote the best explanation for why people cheat.
It's a rather long read, so I'll post the highlights:
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Originally Posted by Skydive Outlaw
Neurochemicals in the brain are behind the intense feelings that we humans call "love". Unfortunately, humans can't maintain the high adrenaline, endorphine based existence that is romantic love past the first intoxicating stage that usually lasts a few months to as much as two years.
The alternative is a break-up and one or both partners seek out the next high from a new relationship that is prone to all the exciting and passionate (sometimes illogical) feelings that the first one did, although it will by natural law meet the same fate as the other relationship if it does not become the boring, everyday, mature bonding associated with long term relationships.
True love in its purest form is no different from insanity in many ways and realistically, the human race might not have survived it's first few thousand years if as higher evolved primates there was not some basic and yet illogical need to mate and create more humans.
I forgot where I got this quote but it is "Romantic love is mental illness. But it's a pleasurable one. It's a drug. It distorts reality, and that's the point of it. It would be impossible to fall in love with someone that you really saw.”
What drives some men and women to cheat lies within their own moral compass.Not everyone cheats no matter how bad their relationship was or is. Each person makes their own choices in the end.So no matter what one is dealing with...there will always be someone who will never cheat while there will be someone who chooses to cheat and quickly find excuses as to why they did it.
Have you ever thought the great electricity we feel with someone new could be spiritual in nature to and the chemicals going off in our head are just the bodies physical response to that spiritual interaction.perhaps Its not the chemicals causing the fireworks, it's the just body's response to something ephemeral going on betwixt and between two people.
As to why people cheat it can be because they don't respect the sacred bonds of their marriage or partnership.
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Originally Posted by IntentionsRGood
The reason people cheat is because our purpose as human beings is to reproduce more human beings to ensure the survival of the species. Cheating is inevitable because monogamy is unnatural.
Most people will dismiss this explanation because, quite frankly, we're all born narcissists. But through socialization with other children, we learn that the world doesn't revolve around us.
Women especially have been socialized to believe in the concept of romantic love - that Prince Charming is out there waiting to ride in on his white horse and sweep her off her feet.
CD member Skydive Outlaw wrote the best explanation for why people cheat.
It's a rather long read, so I'll post the highlights:
Uh huh.
Lazy is as lazy does.
7 word response to say nothing.
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