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They're bored of their partner. Doesn't mean they don't love them. Getting bored is inevitable. Just don't get caught if you're gonna cheat.
Absolutely right. And that is a part of it.
Why can't we stop the urge to take a selfie? Or check your facebook every 2 min? Why do regular 9-5 joe and janes now need to have a free porn tube and use it like social media and upload daily videos for likes, comments, and views?
It's too complicated for many. That is why we stick to the "honesty bit"...
Rather than bashing men and women how about how terrible they are, they are a ***** or calling them names for cheating, lets discuss what drives men and women to cheat?
What do you think drives a person to cheat nowadays?
Any reasons, logic, and some psychology help to see why people would cheat on their partner
There are definitely a lot of factors but what would be the top reasons that cause or gives a person temptations of infidelity?
You should be a different person at 32 than you were at 22. But if you are no longer compatible as a couple, cheating isn't the solution.
You are making the mistake that everyone thinks logically. Same way you only think that people should leave is the same way people will stay in a committed relationship while sneaking the extra piece of cake.
I just busted my daughter for sneaking another spoon of ice cream. It hurt me that she tried to lie. Does it mean she doesn't love me?
^^Ditto. It's a matter of being able to maintain a safe emotional and physical distance from someone you are intensely attracted to.
Same way it's a matter of putting down the cigarette knowing the risk. Which is worse- knowingly subjecting yourself to cancer or knowingly cheating on your spouse? Everyone gets hurt. Hurt doesn't have a measuring stick. Hurt over a cheating lover is selfish as well if you forgive or condone them of smoking a pack a day but not getting a side piece of cake. Selfish.
We are a selfish people but even the rules we make our to justify our own interests....
Rather than bashing men and women how about how terrible they are, they are a ***** or calling them names for cheating, lets discuss what drives men and women to cheat?
What do you think drives a person to cheat nowadays?
Any reasons, logic, and some psychology help to see why people would cheat on their partner
There are definitely a lot of factors but what would be the top reasons that cause or gives a person temptations of infidelity?
Unhappiness in your relationship and...
Opportunity. It's like you meet the right person and you are in the right state of mind.
Where is the line with "sex addiction", is it only "sex addiction" if the other spouse is low drive? Is once a day "addiction", twice a day? If they want something kinky is that "addiction"
I get that there is real sex addiction but I think its one of those things like "mental illness" where maybe 0.001% of people that claim it actually have it. The rest are just digging for excuses for their poor behavior. Bratty people looking to "mental illness" as a get out of jail free card for their poor behavior or claiming their partner has "sex addiction" to enable their own prude behavior.
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Originally Posted by halfamazing
You are conflating. We have already established the dishonesty part. We are focusing on the "why" and "what". What you don't understand doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
We can all hold hands and come to save an alcoholic or drug addict through intervention. Yet, whoa to the sex addict. Hurt is hurt, there is no measuring stick.
If you think a drug addict hurting their family is different than that of a sex addict or cheater hurting their family, YOU are being SELFISH. Same cause, same effect, same place. Think about that one, that is deep...
My father physically cheated on my mom. I vowed never to do the same. I never did. But I found myself in an emotionally attached relationship with a man outside my marriage. I could blame it on my husbands lack of patience, the fact I want sex all the time and he doesn't, stress with him trying to find a different job and needing knee surgery all the while I'm staying at home dealing with three small children one of which is having severe behavioral issues at school.......but none of that explains why I connected so readily and easily to another man. Perhaps it was my need to connect to a man who would listen without letting his own pride and issues get in the way. A man who I could share my deepest desires and secrets without fear of judgement or distancing. I cannot share these things with my husband because he is in the thick of it with me. Just trying to get by and survive this storm. This other man was my lighthouse. But the lighthouse has his own storm to weather and I have enough respect for him and my husband to realize that this ship is mine to steer on my own and my problem to deal with. As much as I want to stay in touch with the other man, if I'm going to give my marriage a fighting chance I cannot. The other man and I know this, and we agreed to break off our communication to keep anything that happens in our respective marriages above reproach and not influenced by our feelings for each other.
Not wired for monogamy
Sex addiction (or other behaviors associated with similar risky behaviors)
Marital issues (finances, job stress, family life stress, resentment, communication issues)
Mental illness (depression, anxiety, bipolar disorders, grief/loss, addictions)
Lack of intimacy, emotional and/or sexual, is often used as a justification (it can be part of the issue at hand, but is not a legitimate justification)
Where is the line with "sex addiction", is it only "sex addiction" if the other spouse is low drive? Is once a day "addiction", twice a day? If they want something kinky is that "addiction"
I get that there is real sex addiction but I think its one of those things like "mental illness" where maybe 0.001% of people that claim it actually have it. The rest are just digging for excuses for their poor behavior. Bratty people looking to "mental illness" as a get out of jail free card for their poor behavior or claiming their partner has "sex addiction" to enable their own prude behavior.
Do me a favor. Stop, open up another tab. Go to any free porn tube. Tell me how many are paid actors/actresses vs regular joe and janes that have their own homemade tubes up. Look at all the different fetishes. Look at the number of videos and year that these people started. Look at the places that they record. Look at the quality of the video- meaning the use of phone or low quality camera.
Now come back and tell me where all that comes from. Tell me that all this content hasn't impacted the way people think? Tell me that your neighbor can't sign up for free and pass their link to your boyfriend and girlfriend.
The world as we know is over. It's 2015. We can't think like it's 1988- aka pre-internet.
Why can't we stop the urge to take a selfie? Or check your facebook every 2 min? Why do regular 9-5 joe and janes now need to have a free porn tube and use it like social media and upload daily videos for likes, comments, and views?
What the heck is this "porn tube" you keep referring to??????????????
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