So I replaced my old photo with my good looking friend and (date, woman)
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Maybe they thought you were too beautiful to be true.
I have to confess, I tended to ignore messages from those I considered way out of my league... figured it was probably a scam. Maybe too much good looks can work against a person too.
I'm sure that's true, but it's a challenge I'd welcome for a change.
Of course pictures make the profile....it's tough to even get interest when there is no picture, so it's silly to believe that attractiveness doesn't open doors. Once they check out the profile, if it's sparse, it really doesn't matter how good looking they are...but if the profile has substance, then interest is sparked. What you write in the profile will determine what type of response you get.
If you sign up for eHarmony, but don't pay, you can't see pictures. When you can't see pictures on that site, pretty much every single profile reads exactly the same way.
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Originally Posted by TMBGBlueCanary
Maybe they thought you were too beautiful to be true.
I have to confess, I tended to ignore messages from those I considered way out of my league... figured it was probably a scam. Maybe too much good looks can work against a person too.
I'd like to think that's the case.
I know from my experiments during my stint as an A-list member and being able to do searches based on attractiveness, the matches they were sending me via email, Quickmatch etc, were those who were considered average and below. I know that in the past, they have been in the news for only exposing those profiles to members who "ranked" the same or below in looks. So, if you are a 5, you only see those who are a five and below. The men who were above average and "hot" didn't come up in searches for me unless I specifically searched for that level of attractiveness and nothing else.
So, it stands to reason that if I'm only being shown the average and below, I myself am only average or below. And from that perspective, I can see a really good picture being suspicious.
Maybe they thought you were too beautiful to be true.
I have to confess, I tended to ignore messages from those I considered way out of my league... figured it was probably a scam. Maybe too much good looks can work against a person too.
I didn't ignore them. Turns out they were all real. But they had MAJOR personality issues or were just super weird.
I didn't ignore them. Turns out they were all real. But they had MAJOR personality issues or were just super weird.
Same. One guy had like this gorgeous modeling shot and I was like, "Um yeah, he's definitely fake" so I asked him to send me a picture in a special pose so that I'd know it was really him, and he did. (So then, of course I agreed to meet him). Turns out the gorgeous modeling photo was a little old though, so he wasn't quite as hot in person. Also, he was married, but he failed to mention that.
I got 15 messages in one day asking to talk to me. Meanwhile using my real photo I got 0 responses so far in a few months with the same profile.
People saying it's all about your profile and what you write are full if it. It's all about your pic and how you look..
I don't know who told you otherwise, but OLD is mostly about pictures. If someone doesn't find your picture attractive, your chances of a response are very low. Likewise, if you're very photogenic and the pictures look recent and good, you'll have people writing to you, even if you're not really a match.
So, either take better pictures--have a buddy take them--or take some tips from your friend in terms of style and grooming.
I never ever send anything first even winks when I was online dating. I just wait for them to contact me. I am an EOD (equal opportunity dater) back then. So you really must be so hideous for me not to reply to you. By hideous I mean your pics or profile.
I don't know who told you otherwise, but OLD is mostly about pictures. If someone doesn't find your picture attractive, your chances of a response are very low. Likewise, if you're very photogenic and the pictures look recent and good, you'll have people writing to you, even if you're not really a match.
So, either take better pictures--have a buddy take them--or take some tips from your friend in terms of style and grooming.
My style and grooming is fine it's probably my unattractive face that's the problem lol
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