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I second what stepka says, Urban. You are quite an attractive guy, and, yes, your consistently intelligent, sensible, fair posts make you even more attractive. Your brain is certainly lick-worthy.
See, OP? A guy's looks might initially attract, but it's his intelligence, kindness, and strength of his character - or lack thereof - that quickly makes or breaks it.
And, stepka. Without question, you are a very attractive woman (and I'm a straight woman). Love your profile picture. Don't let what the "friend" said make you feel insecure.
I agree that Urban's personality adds much to his appeal but even without that he is handsome and top movie star handsome types get much less attractive when narcissistic or other negative traits pop out. But, Urban, I draw the line at licking your brain--that's just gross.
To the OP I would say that more and better pix is what you need. I don't know this for sure since I haven't seen yours, but when I first started OLD I put up my best pix and got less response than I'd hoped. As I got better pix I kept putting them up and got more and better quality responses and then I lost weight and that helped a lot. At first I blamed my age but I've only gotten older since then--I will never get the response that a twenty something really hot chick would get, but that's fine by me.
I think we are our own worst judges. I would bet money you aren't unattractive (or so unattractive that women avoid you). Although that said, it's true that not being photogenic is a serious handicap when doing online dating. The medium is visual by nature. I wouldn't give up on it if I were you, but you might try different venues where you can amplify your attractiveness to the ladies with humor and personality.If you are charismatic, it adds to your attractiveness with women. Maybe try something like speed dating (you also get a bonus advantage with speed dating as more women tend to go to those events than men... at least in my area anyway).
I second this because this just brought up a memory. My sis and I went to amateur night at the comedy club one night and enjoyed the show and stayed after a little so my sis could network since she is an amateur comedienne herself. I noticed a tight little group around the bar of guys who had been brave enough to get up and do a comedy routine and then a very handsome and sexy guy down at the end of the bar. Guess where the girls were? Let's just say the handsome sexy guy went home alone that night, or at least from that bar. Some of the funny guys were more nerdy than sexy but the girls were talking to them too.
Then I was working with a new teacher about a year later and he told me that he'd been very shy growing up but he took an improv class and discovered that he was actually hilarious and outgoing (he was--certainly one of my more enjoyable coworkers) and he soon after met his wife. He was a cutie pie but I'm guessing that his photos would not have gotten a lot of play on a dating site since he wasn't the "hot" type as at 23 he had already lost half his hair.
Does anyone else read this thread title and think, "We are here at (insert name of four-star restaurant), where we've secretly replaced the fine coffee they usually serve with Folgers Crystals."
Please tell me I am not the only one. Even if you have to lie to me to tell me that.
You're not the only one.
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I know, right? Had things been more age-appropriate and unhindered by distance, I might have told her to come closer and I'd just open my mind right on up to all physical advances.
It felt like a major compliment, based on my own turn-ons (of which I'm sure you're quite aware).
*big boobs + moderate conversation = "this can be fun, at least for a while"*
*pretty face + 0 upstairs = "Let's be friends, this can be nice!"*
*"You know, every time I look at the stars I'm torn between the romanticism of our earthly view, staring out into the depths of space from our diminutive perspective... and the grand, cosmic scale of things whereby a point of light from our own perspective is really billions upon billions of other perspectives equally diminutive yet equally cosmic. It makes me breathe deep and think of Yeats at the same time it makes me ever more fascinated with the possibility of a variety of worlds and lives out there..." = "Sweet mother of all things that have mothers, tear off my clothes and take me now, take me hard and keep me forever!"
someone should make a dating site for only 6's and below, and when I say 6's I mean like 5.9's or just barely 6's. No 6.9's squeeking in to screw up the site. No browsing unless you have a profile with a pic up. That would become like the number one dating site over night. You also have to have a minimum number of characters in your profile.
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I pass on those. They tend to come across as high-maintenance and/or vain.
Interestingly, when I switched from a fun, playful main profile picture to one of the best pictures ever taken of me, my profile views and messages dropped from barely on the grid to completely invisible.
When I paid for A-List on OKC and good search based on attractiveness, I found those who were "average" and "above average" to be the most attractive to me. The "hot" guys all looked like snobby douchebags.
Does anyone else read this thread title and think, "We are here at (insert name of four-star restaurant), where we've secretly replaced the fine coffee they usually serve with Folgers Crystals."
Please tell me I am not the only one. Even if you have to lie to me to tell me that.
NOW I'm thinking "We're here on the starship Enterprise, where we've replaced the dilithium crystals with new Folger's flavor crystals. Let's see what happens."
Good-looking guy with abs shirtless or tight shirts in online pics can nab you easy sex if you are not socially awkward.
Never be fooled by women who say they can't stand shirtless pics of guys with abs. Most are attracted to that type of build, especially for online dating.
Actually, I see that, and I think "walking Petri dish of STDs."
I know, right? Had things been more age-appropriate and unhindered by distance, I might have told her to come closer and I'd just open my mind right on up to all physical advances.
It felt like a major compliment, based on my own turn-ons (of which I'm sure you're quite aware).
*big boobs + moderate conversation = "this can be fun, at least for a while"*
*pretty face + 0 upstairs = "Let's be friends, this can be nice!"*
*"You know, every time I look at the stars I'm torn between the romanticism of our earthly view, staring out into the depths of space from our diminutive perspective... and the grand, cosmic scale of things whereby a point of light from our own perspective is really billions upon billions of other perspectives equally diminutive yet equally cosmic. It makes me breathe deep and think of Yeats at the same time it makes me ever more fascinated with the possibility of a variety of worlds and lives out there..." = "Sweet mother of all things that have mothers, tear off my clothes and take me now, take me hard and keep me forever!"
+1. Looks fade and are highly subjective, but an amazing mind is incredibly hot, regardless of what the external packaging looks like. Of course, some people feel differently but that's their prerogative.
*"You know, every time I look at the stars I'm torn between the romanticism of our earthly view, staring out into the depths of space from our diminutive perspective... and the grand, cosmic scale of things whereby a point of light from our own perspective is really billions upon billions of other perspectives equally diminutive yet equally cosmic. It makes me breathe deep and think of Yeats at the same time it makes me ever more fascinated with the possibility of a variety of worlds and lives out there..." = "Sweet mother of all things that have mothers, tear off my clothes and take me now, take me hard and keep me forever!"
/Le sigh
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+1. Looks fade and are highly subjective, but an amazing mind is incredibly hot, regardless of what the external packaging looks like. Of course, some people feel differently but that's their prerogative.
The fact that I can sit and talk with my husband on a variety of issues and concepts, and that we both have the same sense of humor is why I know we will never divorce. I could never go without it.
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