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Here's betting she said "Let's talk later" in an effort to get you to leave her alone when you were bugging her when she was with other people.
If that's not the case, a simple "Can I talk to you over here for a minute?" followed by a quick walk to the side away from others and asking for her number would be simple, fast, and what any reasonably confident guy would do.
Not happening. That's rude. I will talk to her more when I can. I will update this when I can
Not happening. That's rude. I will talk to her more when I can. I will update this when I can
Rude? You must be kidding. That is hardly rude (assuming she has been doing all the things you say she has). Do you have any dating or relationship experience?
Rude? You must be kidding. That is hardly rude (assuming she has been doing all the things you say she has). Do you have any dating or relationship experience?
I think this guy is beyond help, and he more than likely has little to no experience in the romance department. (From how he's going about things, it's probably going to stay that way.)
He has it in his head and REFUSES to see that his "courtesy" and "consideration" is actually hindering more than helping him. He's already made up his mind what he's going to do. The situation will play out just like this:
1. He will continue waiting until she's not busy (watching her from a distance)
2. She will always be exercising or talking to her friends
3. Months will pass
4. She will move away, go to another gym, or meet another guy.
5. Op will either chalk it up to not being good enough, blame her/circumstance, get angry, and fall victim to denial.
It's his own fault that he can't make a move. There is no "right time" to ask someone out at the gym. They will ALWAYS be doing something there, otherwise they wouldn't be there. All this nonsense about her looking at him sometimes or having small empty chats are irrelevant. Any other guy interested would've asked her out (and probably would've been on a few dates) by now.
I am getting the vibe tonight that she thinks Im not interested she still looks at me and in the distance but it seems to be slowing down. Guys approach her all the time so I stay out of it. Same thing she looks at me as they talk to her. She told me twice she wanted to talk to me and we could talk later. She said this within about 2 minutes. I think she interested in getting to know me some. I need to be more prevalent with befriending her. I could have dome something tonight but this chunky dude keeps chatting her up. I cant see that happening. Again , she talks to these guys and looks at me
Im getting message loud and clear I need to ramp it up.
Rude? You must be kidding. That is hardly rude (assuming she has been doing all the things you say she has). Do you have any dating or relationship experience?
We don't have that rapport yet. Yes 100% that would have been rude. I am getting the message loud and clear I think she thinks Im not interested or wonders if Im not.
So yes I gotta ramp this up. I get it, I get it . Etc
I did it recently. It really was that easy. Guy was leaving. I didn't know when I would see Guy again. I wanted to get to know Guy better. So I went and asked Guy for his number. It ultimately turned out he wasn't interested but I survived to tell about it. As have countless other men and women before me.
Can you go further in detail ? was this is the gym? can you explain further? sounds similar to this
The last talk I had with her I felt I cut it short. She asked to see me tomorrow as I was walking away. But she wasn't in the gym the next day.
Have you ever gone out on dates before? Have you ever had a girlfriend?
Yes of course. If you were there in person you would see what I mean. I just dont want to feel weird by asking for her number before she knows me better. I dont want to jump the guns and blow it. I want to time in right so she can be comfortable.
I honestly don't see whats wrong what I am doing here. I dont see it
The only think I can think of is getting number stating I want to continue the conversation later on. It bothers me trying to like get a date on the spot.
The excuse for failure is already being set up.
Other guys are approaching her. It's getting close to the time when we get told that she's no longer "looking " at him and he can't ask her out because she was trotting out the door with some other smarter guy that didn't wait for the 'right time'
The excuse for failure is already being set up.
Other guys are approaching her. It's getting close to the time when we get told that she's no longer "looking " at him and he can't ask her out because she was trotting out the door with some other smarter guy that didn't wait for the 'right time'
Well that may be but I'm now going to ramp it up a bit here. I can sense it fading a little.
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