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In your post just before this one, you stated that you were not sure of her interest, and that's why asking her out would be "too forward" and you would "scare her off".
Excuses, excuses. If other guys are hitting her up, you have no time to lose. The others are right, you are going to lose your chance and you'll have no one to blame but yourself. You miss all the shots that you don't take.
Ask her "May I have your number, because I'd like to call you and take you out sometime".
Done.
I still am unsure on some level. I mean if it was uninterested I would have picked up on it by now.
In your post just before this one, you stated that you were not sure of her interest, and that's why asking her out would be "too forward" and you would "scare her off".
Excuses, excuses. If other guys are hitting her up, you have no time to lose. The others are right, you are going to lose your chance and you'll have no one to blame but yourself. You miss all the shots that you don't take.
Ask her "May I have your number, because I'd like to call you and take you out sometime".
Done.
Would she ask me twice to talk later on to me on as I am my way out if she wasn't interest? she asks that and we hardly know each other. I mean why ask that to someone you hardly know? most of the time that doest happen people just say bye when they only spoken a few times. She was insistent on talking hence saying it twice.
Its not excuses from me, but being socially aware to minimize awkwardness. I feel I need more signs and more talks to be confident in that Im likely correct that its mutual
So is this fixable? I mean I don't want to ask for her number if its out of the blue. Her wanting to talk to me said twice with insistence and the constant eye contact that I can see at a distance all the time seems positive.She would not do this, and the obviousness of my approaches if she wasn't interested. She has to suspect something is up by now and if she wasn't interested she would have shut me down along time ago..
No. At this stage, it likely is not. You waited too long. Asking her for her number, what 3 weeks ago? when you started this thread would have been out of the blue. Asking for her number when she was "insistent" on asking to talk twice within 5 minutes was the perfect opportunity. If you really wanted her number and to move forward with this you would have done it then.
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I still am unsure on some level. I mean if it was uninterested I would have picked up on it by now.
And if you were truly interested in her, you'd be moving this forward not circling the drain with it. Put us all out of our misery and move on.
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Would she ask me twice to talk later on to me on as I am my way out if she wasn't interest? she asks that and we hardly know each other. I mean why ask that to someone you hardly know? most of the time that doest happen people just say bye when they only spoken a few times. She was insistent on talking hence saying it twice.
Because she was interested in getting to know you better. Now she's giving you signals that she lost interest: not coming to the gym at the same time as she was, not trying to engage in conversation with you anymore, etc. She may still be looking your way, but I wouldn't be surprised if she isn't actually looking at you.
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I feel I need more signs and more talks to be confident in that Im likely correct that its mutual
Short of her asking YOU out, WTF other signs do you need?!?!
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Its not excuses from me, but being socially aware to minimize awkwardness. I feel I need more signs and more talks to be confident in that Im likely correct that its mutual
No. At this stage, it likely is not. You waited too long. Asking her for her number, what 3 weeks ago? when you started this thread would have been out of the blue. Asking for her number when she was "insistent" on asking to talk twice within 5 minutes was the perfect opportunity. If you really wanted her number and to move forward with this you would have done it then.
And if you were truly interested in her, you'd be moving this forward not circling the drain with it. Put us all out of our misery and move on.
Because she was interested in getting to know you better. Now she's giving you signals that she lost interest: not coming to the gym at the same time as she was, not trying to engage in conversation with you anymore, etc. She may still be looking your way, but I wouldn't be surprised if she isn't actually looking at you.
Short of her asking YOU out, WTF other signs do you need?!?!
No way i didn't wait too long. You have to keep in mind I don't run into her that much for a bit there I'll update this when I can.
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