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If you expect sex to be the main reason to make the marriage or relationship work, then you are in serious trouble.
Ditto.
And I'm sure there's other posts on this topic, but the average time sex actually lasts for a man is like 4 minutes or something to that extent... Premature ejaculation is totally common... So... in and out... Won't that be considered a "lack" of sexual performance? There goes almost half of the male population... I wouldn't leave a man for that...
Sex is an important part of a relationship for many people. Would you end it if a new partner couldn't perform?
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REPLY: If it doesnt work too well via sexual intercourse, there are other ways of experiencing sex with your spouse which is gratifying and which helps builds the relationship to a deeper point . The important thing is that you both agree on what to do and that you both find it mutually satisfying. So, no...it doesnt mean you throw in the marriage ; it means you work together on this issue and stay together.
With Viagra, and Cialis easily available should this be a problem?
An equivalent 'wonder drug' for women hasn't become commonplace as of yet. MDs have tried men's ED drugs with women as well as testosterone (don't know what dosage form it is -- patch, gel, tablet or something else,) but there isn't much written about it and certainly no commercials. You see Viagra and Cialis commercials all the time, but I've never women's testosterone patch commercials! Though I don't know exactly what's going on in guys' minds, a man with ED who takes Viagra or the other drugs must want to have sex already. A woman with low libido really basically doesn't care to have sex. That, to me, is far more of a problem. Even a man with ED CAN perform in some way (I know, I've been with a man with ED pre-Viagra) and still have satisfaction, and they can still provide satisfaction to their partners through some other means . It's not the most ideal situation, however. Among other things, a women with low libido feels guilt for not wanting what her spouse wants and feels a pressure to 'do it' for him even when she has no desire - at least during a period of my life when my mom was going through cancer treatment while I was dealing with 2 toddlers at home, that's how I felt. I wish there was a drug that could have helped me.
Perhaps it's TMI, but my mom's cancer free and my libido issues, to my hubby's delight, have cleared up. And for those people younger than me (I'll be 50 next month,) even when you're not in your 20s or 30s, sex can still be wonderful (actually, it's better now than it was before.)
This wasn't exactly an answer to the original question, only a response to the previous poster. In answer to the original question, at my point in life with my spouse, despite how wonderful that aspect of our relationship is, if something happened to him and he couldn't perform in any way (which right now is unfathomable,) I would so NOT leave him. Our relationship is far more than just the sex, as important as that is.
I knew married couples who never had sex together and are very happy couples. They are very physical affectionate to each other, but wanted to live a life without sex. So it can be done and still be happy.
An equivalent 'wonder drug' for women hasn't become commonplace as of yet. MDs have tried men's ED drugs with women as well as testosterone (don't know what dosage form it is -- patch, gel, tablet or something else,) but there isn't much written about it and certainly no commercials. You see Viagra and Cialis commercials all the time, but I've never women's testosterone patch commercials!
There won't be. Women's sex drives defy science. Any pill taken to increase bloodflow to the female organs causes a tingly sensation, but little else. Good luck getting widespread approval for steroid (ie test) patches or pills or shots. The fear would be that others besides low-libido women would use them. Also fear of muffstaches, deeper voices, and cavewoman foreheads
There seems to be very few consistent roads to the female pleasure parade, and certainly none that are or will be available through drugs. Sorry.
On Topic: Would I end the relationship? Of course not. There are a trillion other ways to have love and intimacy, and both men and women have all sorts of options for 'doing their own thing' nowadays. Just because everything is sex sex sex in our society does not mean that should be the main focus.
To me the most important thing would be, does she have a nice butt?? I could easily finish myself while staring at her rear, as long as she has a glorious bubbly bootay.
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. It's not the most ideal situation, however. Among other things, a women with low libido feels guilt for not wanting what her spouse wants and feels a pressure to 'do it' for him even when she has no desire - at least during a period of my life when my mom was going through cancer treatment while I was dealing with 2 toddlers at home, that's how I felt. I wish there was a drug that could have helped me.
and my libido issues, to my hubby's delight, have cleared up. And for those people younger than me (I'll be 50 next month,) even when you're not in your 20s or 30s, sex can still be wonderful (actually, it's better now than it was before.)
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