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My personal "cave" consists mostly of a library, and revolves around a combination of career and hobby interests; my values revolve around autonomy and the avoidance of unnecessary structure -- the recognition that the world can't always start at 8 AM and slow up at 5 PM, and counter to the tendency of the uninitiated and the meddlesome to impose their dreams and insecurities on all of us, and turn daily life into something like an overgrown nursery school. That's all the "man cave" I need -- a number of women I've come to know and respect are welcome there, and a fair number of "men" aren't!
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My last SO and I did everything together. We lifted weights, ran, rode bikes, paddled kayaks, went to libraries, tended gardens, went hiking and birdwatching, cooked and ate together, socialized and did the other obvious thing or two, together. No TV, but we were too busy entertaining each other, to need it. No caves needed to get away and hide.
I sing in an all female citywide choir. It would be weird if my husband tried to do that with me. My husband is also an expert-rated marksman in the military, and enjoys going to the firing range. I, on the other hand,have zero interest in firearms or shooting.
It's okay to have hobbies one's partner doesn't participate in. We have probably 90% shared activities we mutually enjoy, but also some stuff that's just our individual stuff. Nobody's hiding because they pursue individual interests periodically.
Do you have any issue with a man or specifically a man you are in a relationship with having a "man cave". A room/garage where all his electronics and such are and where he goes when he wants some me time?
God no, why should I?
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I'll admit I'm at a loss too. I've lived in CA for a good few years now and I can say with 100% confidence that I have never once heard anyone, including anyone who hunts, mention duck hunting, much less "sea" duck hunting specifically.
Ah well.
The Salton Sea is an area that is big on waterfowl. Almost all bays and sloughs that used to allow hunting have been shut down by the govt. S Bay here is San Diego being one of them. Those big scary shotguns with a range of a hundred yards
I can see it going strong in Oregon and Washington but CA covers most of the coastline. Heck, if you want to shoot on the water here you have to be miles out so it can't be heard or people will call LE.
I'm also not going to hunt something I'm not going to eat and scoter, which I've tried, is straight up nasty. Most divers are just plain gross.
If it weren't for my man cave, id be divorced
Ive never watched porn in it, just sports and war movies
all my music equipment is down there...kids weren't allowed in until they were older...
its funny, my wife will actually knock before she comes down stairs...
I find the idea of a "man cave" hilarious and sad. Since when did men get banished to a "man cave" for their own space? If you're any sort of man, the man cave IS the house. You share the space with your SO but the moment that she starts dictating that you can't have certain things (within reason) in certain places and you begrudgingly agree because "happy wife, happy life...." well, you're well on your way to being miserable in your own house.
I find the idea of a "man cave" hilarious and sad. Since when did men get banished to a "man cave" for their own space? If you're any sort of man, the man cave IS the house. You share the space with your SO but the moment that she starts dictating that you can't have certain things (within reason) in certain places and you begrudgingly agree because "happy wife, happy life...." well, you're well on your way to being miserable in your own house.
Try using this example when your SO's craft table starts finding its way in front of the television when you're trying to watch tv.
It's not just a one way street like you are assuming it to be
Their are very real reasons for having your own space in a shared home.
It's not all associated with "getting your way"
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