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No, I don't mind that he has his own space. I'm relieved at not having to find a place for the swords and dragon stuff. I have an office too. I painted it lavender. I like having a space I can decorate as I please. There's plenty of house for "us."
P.S. I lived in California for 30 years and never even heard of sea ducks. Ducks live in the park. Thanks, Orange County!
I personally never liked this whole man cave thing (& neither does my SO). It's as if to say the guy MUST have his own private space because his wife/kids are annoying nags or something &/OR that the wife has the kitchen, so the man NEEDS a room of the house that's all his own too.
And to add, in NO WAY will there ever be any room or area that's considered to be "off-limits" to me or worse...be locked to where I have to knock & get permission to enter. Not in a house that I OWN & help pay the mortgage for!
Man caves , dont make me laugh... when I was young in Glasgow back in the 50s, most of the men were never out the pub, to get away with the cramped conditions of the house and kids, shame isnt it, when the women spent the whole day and their whole lives stuck in these conditions with no where to run..for fun.. they had the common close at the bottom of the stairwell to spend time looking after their kids when weather was too hot inside the house,, while the men , men caved in the local..
I personally never liked this whole man cave thing (& neither does my SO). It's as if to say the guy MUST have his own private space because his wife/kids are annoying nags or something &/OR that the wife has the kitchen, so the man NEEDS a room of the house that's all his own too.
And to add, in NO WAY will there ever be any room or area that's considered to be "off-limits" to me or worse...be locked to where I have to knock & get permission to enter. Not in a house that I OWN & help pay the mortgage for!
Just because that's the way YOU perceive it doesn't make it so. Nor does it mean it's a "man only" domain, simply it's an area where the man will most likely spend a lot more time than the woman; not because she isn't allowed in or has a lock or needs to knock before entering or any of that, but simply due to it usually containing things that only the man will really care enough about to go into the room in the first place.
I seriously wonder out of those women that do object would feel differently if instead of being called a man cave it was called something like an "Game room", "Entertainment room" etc.?
Funny enough many times while I am in there doing whatever my fiance will come in and surprise me with some food or drink, not because I ask her to mind you, just because she wants to.
I seriously wonder out of those women that do object would feel differently if instead of being called a man cave it was called something like an "Game room", "Entertainment room" etc.?
A "man cave" by any other name...
For me, it's not about what it's called, it's about the idea behind it. The article that was cited around page 7 on this thread illustrates just about everything I don't like about the concept.
That a man needs a space that he hasn't compromised on. That a man needs a space that is outside of a woman's influence. That a man needs a space of his own.
If gender was taken out of it, I would have way less of an issue with the concept. Though, I still would wonder about the type of person who would say "ok fine" to what's in the house and then insist on having their own space to furnish as they please. If (whatever) is so important to the person I was with, I would expect that they would not say "do whatever you want with the space".
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Funny enough many times while I am in there doing whatever my fiance will come in and surprise me with some food or drink, not because I ask her to mind you, just because she wants to.
For me, it's not about what it's called, it's about the idea behind it. The article that was cited around page 7 on this thread illustrates just about everything I don't like about the concept.
That a man needs a space that he hasn't compromised on. That a man needs a space that is outside of a woman's influence. That a man needs a space of his own.
If gender was taken out of it, I would have way less of an issue with the concept. Though, I still would wonder about the type of person who would say "ok fine" to what's in the house and then insist on having their own space to furnish as they please. If (whatever) is so important to the person I was with, I would expect that they would not say "do whatever you want with the space".
What's so funny about that?
You and some others believe that way but that isn't why men (or the men that do) have a man-cave. A lot of the time, as I stated before, men have a lot of things that would clash and go against what the woman of the house would want to see in the main area, or other parts of the house. I know my fiance would not like all my electronic stuff and wires spread all around the living room, as well as my video game posters and wall scrolls, as well as all the other little knick knacks and memorabilia I have.
Though to my surprise when I got home from work one day she had put up a bunch of christmas stuff in my man cave which was really nice.
You, and others are the ones bringing gender into the equation. My fiance has a room dedicated to embroidery and other things relating to it, do you view that a problem as well?
My husband and I choose our furniture and decor together, but ultimately he leaves it up to me to choose the paint colors and accent pieces. He doesnt care enough to be bothered.
He has a rented space where he keeps his drums and motorcycles, thank the lord. Our neighbors are grateful for that as well. Funny that he just gave me a key to it yesterday and I labeled the key "man cave" just for giggles.
You and some others believe that way but that isn't why men (or the men that do) have a man-cave. A lot of the time, as I stated before, men have a lot of things that would clash and go against what the woman of the house would want to see in the main area, or other parts of the house. I know my fiance would not like all my electronic stuff and wires spread all around the living room, as well as my video game posters and wall scrolls, as well as all the other little knick knacks and memorabilia I have.
Did you actually read the article that the OP linked to?
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You, and others are the ones bringing gender into the equation. My fiance has a room dedicated to embroidery and other things relating to it, do you view that a problem as well?
As I have said before, NO, I don't think that having separate spaces for particular functions is a bad thing, at all. My partner has a room dedicated to his models. If I had a hobby that required dedicated space, I would have that space.
Where my issue lies is the idea that men need a space where there has been no compromise. (See article cited by OP). To me, it feeds into the stereotypical "war between the sexes". That, somehow, a man needs his own space because he's forced to abandon his own wants and desires in the rest of the house.
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