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...said it to him? Or brought it up over Thanksgiving dinner? I suppose there is a difference, but still it could be pretty hurtful depending on the situation. I had the opposite comment, and have always felt pretty good about it , so I can imagine any suggestion of an impersonal nature about lack of size can hurt. Thankfully she didn't specifically say "inadequate", or was that implied?
Yea that's probably at the top of the list of what to not ever say to a man. I'm a woman, and I can't blame him for not speaking to you, sounds like you were taking a cheap shot at him.
When I met my exbf he claimed to be a fat 8, unfortunately the truth was a slim 6. He always felt insecure about it and a few other things, like he had to prove something. It's one of the reasons, I left him due to his insecurity as a person. Personally size doesn't matter to me as long as they are caring and a decent human being.
So this guy is offended & broke contact after I commented on his lack of size "Down there"
There was a level of conflict at one point that compelled me to insinuate his lack of size down there.
Another time I clarified to him "it is not small but not big either"
He took offense; is he not over-reacting? (He's younger than me, in his 20s)
Wow, and I thought it was supposed to be men who were insensitive. Do you really not see how crass and insulting you were?
It's no exactly what you said but how you said it. You used it as ammo in an argument or discussion against him.
Right, and it's definitely a "once it's said it can't be unsaid" kind of thing. When you're involved with someone you tend to know what their weak spots are, and it's definitely a bad move to punch them there even if they're being a jag. To have someone they care about criticize something that they hate about themselves is hard to recover from.
Right, and it's definitely a "once it's said it can't be unsaid" kind of thing. When you're involved with someone you tend to know what their weak spots are, and it's definitely a bad move to punch them there even if they're being a jag. To have someone they care about criticize something that they hate about themselves is hard to recover from.
Previously he had refered to it, as being "big"
I don't think he was that self-aware of its relative size?!
Never outright said "Small". There was insinuation. "Not small but not big either"
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, so I can imagine any suggestion of an impersonal nature about lack of size can hurt. Thankfully she didn't specifically say "inadequate", or was that implied?
